- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I feel every anniversary (this November will be three years) marks another year of not receiving a wedding proposal– almost like I’m set back another year instead of feeling like it’s another year of moving forward. I know that sounds terrible but I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one. I have told him before that past co-workers have asked me when we were getting married and he told me to tell them that he is as committed to me with or without being married. That’s the extent of him talking about the marriage, anything else and he gets frustrated, angry and walks away.
I have never really set a firm deadline (I will never tell him I set a deadline because then he’ll really freak out!) but I want to know if you ladies have set a deadline and have actually stuck to it and either:
-told him what you wanted, he never proposed and you left him and you’re happy/sad about that
-told him what you wanted, he never proposed and you still stayed and are happy/sad about that
-told him what you wanted and he actually proposed
We lived together in TX for one year, two weeks ago I moved back to GA and he plans to move here in a couple of months–we both met and went to school here. I want to continue our relationship but we just can’t live together until we know both of us are on the same page. At the risk of it (possibly) coming off as an ultimatum, I need to tell him what my plans are in life and basically if he wants to join me, the door is open. There’s a possibility he could propose or over time, he may feel he has waited this long b/c I may not be “the one”. Who knows but I want to know from others that have essentially given an ultimatum (I think this is such an ugly word!) and did it backfire, work out, or still in progress?