Post # 1
I know this has probably been posted a million times, but I’m having problems deciding how to incorporate my step dad. Here are my options
1.) Both Dad and Step Dad walk me down the isle together, although I fell that they would crowd me and the beauty of my dress will be smushed between two grey suits.
2.) Start off with my step-dad then switch to my dad half way down the isle. Although I just feel thats too much going on
3.) Have my dad walk me down the isle and my mom and step-dad join us at the end to give me away toghether. However, this leaves my step-mom out but she’s not to big a part of my life. Although I like this option, I don’t wont her to get mad for being left out
4.) Traditionally…have my dad walk and give me away alone.
So all you Brides with split families…how did you do it?
Post # 3
How close are you to your step-father? Are you doing this because you feel like you have to, or do you feel like they are both your fathers?
I would choose one person to walk you down the aisle and give the others a different special job like a reading, blessing or toast.
Post # 4
I think hearing about your relationships with both of your dads would help us give advice. Without knowing this, I kind of like the idea of walking down with your dad and having your step-dad and mom join you at the end- if you could find another way to include your step-mom. Could she do a reading at the wedding/ lead a prayer (if you are religious)- something that would be important to her and you? I think it can show that they are all important to you in different ways 🙂
Post # 5
I am close to both my dad and step-dad. My mom remarried when I was 12 so from that point on, my step-dad helped raise me and is very close to me.
Its difficult to choose what to do…I lean towards having my mom and step-dad join us at the end of the isle but yes that leaves my step-mom out and we really aren’t into having anything additonal to the wedding besides the traditional stuff.
I thought about having my step-mom stand as well but my mom got real emotional over it. She really really dislikes my step mom and said she couldn’t stand before God to give me away with her beside me. I do not have similar feelings but I’m trying to please everyone to avoid any more drama!
Post # 6
What if you don’t have your step dad come up to give you away, just your mom… Then during the reception have a step-dad/step-daughter dance. that way your step mom doesn’t get her feelings hurt and your step dad gets a special moment…
I’m in a similar situation, except we all like my step-mom, but she hasn’t been in my life as long as my step-dad (although him and my mom have ‘only” been together since I was like 14, I’ve known him since I was 5… my dad starting dating my step mom when I was 17/18) so we aren’t as close… So to avoid any hurt feelings I am having my Dad walk me down the isle, my mom come up to help him “give me away” and then having a father/daughter dance at the reception followed by a step-father/daughter dance. 🙂