- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
So I know that I have read about this all over but I still would love opinions on this and if anyone actually had both walk down the isle I would really love to hear what they thought and how it went.
My parents got divorced when I was 2, my Dad moved to TN (Mom lives in MN) so we only saw him a few times a year. When I was 7 my Mom started dating my Step-dad, then they got married when I was like 13 or 14. Needless to say my Step-dad has been an ENORMOUS part of my life. We fought like father/daughter and now that I am older we have the most wonderful father/daughter relationship I could ask for. My Dad is still extremely important to me and we have are own unique, and different (from my relationship with my Step-dad) but it is still special and important. The two relationships just aren’t comparable because they are two different people so the dynamics are different. Needless to say, I don’t know what to do. I want my Dad to walk me down the isle 1) because he’s my Dad 2) because I know it means the world to him but I want my Step-dad to as well because I feel it is an honor to be his daughter and I want him to experience that feeling of giving his daughter away too. The problem is I don’t think my Dad will react well if I even ask… Not that they don’t get along because really they do, but truthfully I think that my Dad is jealous that my Step-dad and Mom are happy together and that he just hasn’t found that happiness in life yet. He did remarry once but it didn’t work out. I think he is jealous that my Step-dad has a great wife, and two great kids who he gets to see all the time. My Dad still and always will live in another state so just doesn’t spend the same amount of time with us.
But really, the fact is my Step-dad understands (which makes him all the more amazing) so if I don’t have the guts to ask my Dad how he feels I want to at least do something at the beginning of the ceremony to give recognition to my Step-dad, like maybe have my Dad walk me down the isle and then have my Step-dad step down from the place the priest stands (by the way Step-dad = the priest too! We are Episcopalian just incase you are wondering about the Priest being married – that’s Catholic) and stand next to me and kiss my cheek too and shake FI hand.
So any ideas? Comments? Experiences?