- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
This is my first ever post. I usually just come here and find questions that others have asked and get all of my answers, but I am really stuck on this one. I have chosen to have both my dad and stepdad walk me down the aisle. My stepdad is aware of this, but I have not told my father yet. I am not particularly close to either one, but they have both been present in my life. I do not remember my mom and father ever being married and my dad has been remarried since I was 5. My stepfather has been a part of my life since I was 9. I am now 25.
I cannot choose just one, it simply does not feel right. So, that’s how I made my decision. It was pretty assumed to my stepdad that my father would walk me down the aisle, too. I live far away from my family and do not frequently see them. I had planned to have this conversation with my father in person, but I have not been able to see him since we actually set our date (we went back in forth on having a private destination wedding) so at that point it was not relevant to talk to him about it. Now here I am, 2 weeks before my wedding and I still haven’t told him about my wishes. He is a very easy going guy and I expect he will not have any issue with this, but there is a thought in the back of my head that wonders what if he gets really upset. I know he assumes he will have a role in our wedding because we have already discussed suit color and tie selection, but I just haven’t been able to have this conversation yet. I honestly was hoping I would have a chance to visit before the wedding.
I am going to speak with him tonight. Has anyone had any experience with situations like this? Was your dad/stepdad okay with your decisions?
Suggestions for how to have this conversation? I don’t want to be offensive, but I also don’t want to ask permission.