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Do you and your FI live close to your father? Maybe your FI could invite your father out to do some guy things, so they could get to know each other. That would be a good start. Then your FI can let your father know that he has only your best interests at heart and will honor you forever and always, even though you don't come from the same backgrounds.
@noritake22: I guess that has become a lot of the issue because my FI has invited and tried time and time again to do things with my father. He tries so hard to show him how much he cares for me but my dad doesn't seem to care. It is emotionally hard for all three of us and I want to come to some common ground.
Time. You are your father's daughter and sometimes it's hard even without culture difference to realize you're growing up. My brother had to deal with this with his wife. It likely didn't help they got engaged/married fairly young for their peers (immediately after college), so the parents didn't get accustomed to the idea by seeing other kids getting married. It took some time (and them living states away from the father for a while) for the father to accept my brother. Brother is now working for father at his company.
No easy way to ask for cash until he's reconciled to it. Can you ask your mom instead? Do without it?
@kay01: Mom isn't going to be able to provide a lot but said she would help where she can and right now we are planning as if he isn't going to help. Just puts so much stress on us because that means for the next year all we will do is work and go to school and well obviously plan a wedding. Even with him not paying I just want to feel like he is just the least bit happy for me you know? I mean he is my dad I was his favorite little girl growing up and although we have had a straned relationship the past couple years I want to be able to get over that.
It is hard for daddy's to give their "little girl" away, even when they see eye to eye with the groom to be, even harder when there are perceived differences. I agree with giving dad the time to come around. Sorry, it isn't easier.
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So I was raised in a different religion then my fiance but after meeting and doing things together we have come to a place where we are both extremely happy. My father on the other hand does not agree with this at all and has made it very clear that he does not want us to be together. I have always done things to please him so this is all becoming very rough. My fiance would really like for him to care about him but most importantly for him to be happy because he knows it would make things much easier for me. I am lost when it comes to telling my father "hey dad I am not a child anymore and I can make my own decisions. I am doing what is right for me and I need your support." This also takes a hit budget wise because I don't know how I am going to ask my father to help pay for a wedding that he wishes didn't even exist. Any suggestions would be nice : )