(Closed) Dad doesn't seem to want to attend rehearsal dinner. why??

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Have you expressed to your dad that you really want him there?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would let it go. Maybe hes just trying to be really helpful of th OOT family. as long as he will be there on the big day, then id let it go

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Just tell him- “Dad, I really want you there- this is important to me. Aunt & Uncle can make it on their own.”

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I would call the aunt & uncle– I’m assuming it’s his side of the damily? He’s probably trying to be a good relative & honestly, the idea of a long dinner party probably doesn’t sound like a lot of fun to him– it’s nothing personal, but I know my FFIL would rather have dental work without novicane than sit through a big family dinner for ANY reason. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t see any reason to be hurt.  Your dad is trying to be helpful for his family members and probably doesn’t think of the rehearsal as something that’s super important (and in all fairness, it sounds like  casual event at your MILs home).  If you really want him to be there, just tell him.  Perhaps he can arrange for a car service for the family members to your MIL’s home?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I went through a very very very similar thing, but with my ILs. So I kept my mouth shut, but DH was really upset and ended up saying something to his parents. About how by not attending the RD = not supporting him and disrespecting my family (who were hosting the RD and the wedding). So I wouldn’t say anything to your aunt and uncle, but I would try to explain to your dad why his attendance at the RD is important to you.

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