Post # 1
My fiance is perfect for me. I always say, “He may not be perfect, but he is perfect for me. He is loving,helpful with me (I am disabled but love to be independent. Hence, FI doesn’t ALWAYS help me because I want to do things for myself). He is encouraging and tries to motivate me with whatever I want to do, especially with the job search. Despite being physically disabled, FI believes that I should have gainful employment (I totally agree). Anyways, I believe that my dad mistakes this motivating and encouraging me as controlling behavior from my FI. I could be wrong. So, now I feel like walking on eggshells with my parents when my FI comes to visit me…we are long distance right now. I never want him to leave because I don’t like talking about my relationship with my parents too much. It is such a personal thing….am I being unreasonable for feeling this way towards my parents??
Post # 3
A little. You expect them to not to take things the wrong way, but you are not willing to discuss your relationship with them. I think you really need to open up to them more. They only want what is best for you and they will never fully understand until you tell them you are happy and this is what you want. Communication is very important in any relationship, especially with one’s parents.
Post # 4
No. I don’t know what your disability is but I think your Fi is right in this case. You need to have some sense of security and freedom. Being independent and working are all positive things and important for you! Dad is probably just being overprotective.
Post # 5
Parents have a habit of being ‘protective’ towards their children and espcially if they are not always in receipt of the full information!..
Your parents may never be in full agreement with who is ‘Perfect’ for you.. but at the end of the day it is YOU that has to live with him not them.
Perhaps it is time to open up a little to then about your relationship and why it is so perfect for you.. 🙂
Post # 6
I agree with your FI in this situation. My parents and I don’t communicate about my relationship based on my dad’s dislike of my prior FI. So I don’t blame you for feeling like your relationship is personal and not talking about it. I think your dad is definitely being over-protective and I hope that over time he can see how great your FI is for you!