Post # 1
Just wanted to share a really great conversation I had with my dad. One of my old schoolfriend told me on Christmas Eve that she and her boyfriend are talking about getting engaged. I told my dad about this and we ended up talking about engagements and how things have changed – my dad found it weird that a couple would talk about getting engaged before it happened, while I would find the opposite really weird!
Anyway, it seemed like a good opportunity to ask my dad this question, so I asked whether, if my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I were to get engaged, he would want Boyfriend or Best Friend to ask him first. My dad laughed and said, “I wouldn’t expect him to and I wouldn’t be disappointed if he didn’t. But if he did ask, I would say yes.” I am sooo happy he feels this way about my BF! 😀
Plus, this has confirmed my feeling that I don’t want Boyfriend or Best Friend to ask my dad, and we will tell my parents together when it happens. This is mainly because if Boyfriend or Best Friend did ask my dad first, when I tell him, “guess what, we’re engaged!” my dad would probably say “I thought as much, I spoke to Boyfriend or Best Friend last week.” I want to surprise him myself!
Anyone else want to share any good news? 🙂
Post # 3
That is so adorable, you gotta love the dads!
Post # 4
That is exciting, my Fiance didn’t ask for my dads permission or blessing before proposing, he said it just wasn’t his style (he’s not overly traditional really), so when we told all my family, my Dad could be included in the surprise moment as well 🙂
My dad was still extremely pleased when he found out, I personally think it’s an outdated tradition as people just expect it to happen these days. I believe the asking of the fathers permission was back in the days where couples got engaged much sooner before even having a close relationship with each other, as it was all meant to start after getting married.
Keep us updated 🙂
Post # 5
My dad and I had talked before about I wanted my guy to propose already. Dad agreed that it had been a good long time and that he would be ok with it if my guy did propose. Well, my dad brought it up to my guy the next time they were together. Dad said “you have my approval to marry my little girl.” my guy and I talked about that later that day, and he said ” that’s all I needed!”
Hee hee! 🙂 I’m still waiting but I have a timeline now
Post # 6
That’s very news and very cute!
Post # 7
My husband never asked my father either, we’re adults and don’t need permission. But it’s always a plus to know the parents like the man you’ve chosen 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
That’s so exciting and really cute (: hopefully you don’t have to wait much longer!
Post # 9
@Audrey2: This is so lovely!
And this: my dad found it weird that a couple would talk about getting engaged before it happened, while I would find the opposite really weird! I totally agree with you. My parents think the same. Strange how times have changed.
Post # 10
That’s really interesting! My parents talked about getting engaged, and even went ring shopping together. This is early 80s, though.
Post # 11
How cute! I hope my SO talks to my dad, not so much for permission but for his blessing. Hope you’re engaged soon!
Post # 12
Cute story, and I share the same vision as you. I want to surprise my parents instead of SO asking for their blessing. The minute my parents met my SO they fell in love with him. My Dad and SO are so similar they became instant friends which is too cute!! We both know our parents will be over the moon when it happens, so no need to ask for approval, they gave him the thumbs up on the first meeting 🙂
Post # 13
That is a cute story…I know my SO wouldn’t ask my dad. Though he told him he would take care of me. Which meant a lot to me. 🙂
Post # 14
That sounds lovely. And it’s lovely about your friend too – maybe the engagement excitement will some day soon be something the two of you can share 🙂
Post # 15
Hi everyone! Thank you all for your kind replies. I’m so sorry, I’m in the middle of my university term and didn’t realise it was so long since I posted this!
I’m very happy to know my parents approve of my SO and everything in our relationship is great at the moment, so all is good 🙂