Post # 1
The other day I was with my fiance’s family and we were talking about his bachelor party. His younger brother and best man will be planning it and wants to go to a bar somewhere and basically drink the night away. Then out of nowhere his father chimes in, “Well, I’m game for whatever.” I had a look of confusion on my face to which his father responded with, “Oh yeah, the fathers and other male relatives always go to the bachelor party. I had my father and grandfather at mine and I wouldn’t miss Joe’s (my fiance’s) for the world.”
I asked my fiance later what he thought of that, and he said he didn’t really mind if his dad wanted to come as he wasn’t planning on doing anything too crazy. But I still though that was strange. It just doesn’t seem like the guys could really let go and have fun with parental figures present. What do you guys think? Is this normal?
Post # 3
I think ultimately it depends on what type of relationship they have and what type of man the father is. I could see it being easy going or not.. so i think if they’re all comfortable with it, why not?
Post # 4
I don’t think that it is abnormal, like @Cheeks923: said, I think that it depends on their relationship.
Post # 5
Eh, nothing weird here. All of Darling Husband friends dads and actually some of their wives dads have gone to their bachelor parties.
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s necessary for the dad to be invited, but if the groom is okay with it, sounds good! Same thing with moms at bachelorette parties–I think it’s the bride’s call.
Post # 7
My fiance is actually having his bachelor party in the summer… after we are married.
It is a camping weekend. His dad is going. Fiance even went out if his way to invite MY dad (my dad wants to go – there is fishing involved).
I agree with Cheeks… I don’t think there really is a “standard” – I think it depends on the relationship. I know Fiance’s best friend’s father & uncle went to his, too (they went to a Cub’s game & went bar hopping afterwards)
Post # 8
My Father-In-Law was at both DH’s and BILs bachelor parties. DH’s party was much tamer than BILs but my Father-In-Law seemed to have enjoyed both. They didn’t even hesitate to invite their dad or uncle for that matter. Even my dad was invited to DH’s but he passed since he doesn’t drink and probably wouldn’t have had a great time bar hopping.
Post # 9
I agree with PPs, it depends on the situation and their relationship. My dad and uncle took Darling Husband out and it was normal to them, so whatever floats their boats I guess haha.
Post # 10
I’ve never actually heard of a dad going, but I guess it depends on their relationship and their traditions. I can tell you that neither my dad nor FI’s dad will be attending his! Maybe it also depends on the age gap between father and son? I mean, my dad is nearly 70 and FI’s dad is in his late 50s….not sure if they would really want to go out and party hardy, you know?
Post # 11
In my family all the Dad’s go. Including Uncles, Grandpa’s, etc. They are also pretty wild. My father, DH’s father, and his mother’s bf all went. They saw strippers too. I have never thought a Dad wouldn’t go.
Post # 12
My husband’s dad went to his bachelor party and Darling Husband was totally cool with that. Apparently that’s a big thing in his family, cause my Mother-In-Law was SUPER excited about going to my bachelorette (although she ended up not being able to make it). I think it just depends on family tradition. Of course, DH’s bachelor party attendees included his brother and his brother-in-law (my SIL’s husband), so there was a lot of family there in general.
Post # 13
Yes its very normal. All the guys going to the wedding get invited, though some grooms chose just to have close friends, however the Father of the Bride ALWAYS goes.
Post # 14
I’m sure you’re tired of hearing this, but I agree that it depends. I’m not sure if Future Father-In-Law is going or not?
Post # 15
My dad and my Future Father-In-Law (and my futureFIL, stepparent edition) are probably going to phase 1 of the Bachelor party (dinner and drinking, from my assumption) but from what I’ve heard from him, none of the dads will be there for phase 2 which is including a strip club. So it depends on their relationship and what his bachelor party activities are (and if that would be awkward for him to be there with his dad!)
Post # 16
I think its normal! My FH is even having his at my parents place!!! (I think I will need to save mum for that night though….)