Post # 1
I have a dad, much like other bees, who is not involved so much in my life. I have a wonderful step dad who will be walking me down the aisle. The issue is, my dad (the one who gave me life) doesn’t know that I’m having my step dad walk me down the aisle. I’ve spoken to him a total of two times since I’ve been engaged, which is a year now. Do I still include him in the tux rental? Do you think that will make him assume he’s walking me down the aisle? I’m going to have him announced at the reception and I plan to dance with him but I don’t want that ackward moment when I’m like, hey yeah…so you’re not walking me down the aisle. *Sigh*
Any advice on how to make this less complicated and spare feelings for everyone involved?? Anyone else have the same issue??
Post # 3
I think it’s okay for him to wear a tux even if he’s not walking you down the aisle.
I also think that you’re going to end up having this conversation whether you like it or not. At some point it will come up about who is going to walk you down the aisle. And it’s probably better to do it now when you’re still several months away from your wedding, rather than a month or so ahead of time when stressers are even higher.
Maybe if you tell him that you still want to do the father/daughter dance with him, but because of your close relationship with Stepdad he will be walking you down, he will understand. I know it’s hard because you don’t want to hurt feelings, but one way or the other he’s going to notice when the day arrives that he isn’t the guy doing it. So best to get the drama, hurt feelings out of the way now.
Post # 4
@vabride2011: You’re right. You’re right. I know you’re right…..