(Closed) Dad vs. Step Dad

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

That’s a tough one. Is there a way to include both men? Perhaps have them both walk you down the aisle? You never know, maybe years down the road you’ll be close to your biological dad. I would hate for you to regret not including him. Just my thoughts. 

Post # 4
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717 posts
Busy bee

maybe have your bio-dad do a reading or something?  you have to do what your are most comfortable with, not what is conventional or convenient.  while your dad may have made changes to his life, this didn’t include you really (going on what you’ve posted).  maybe have your mom give you away and have your step dad involved in some other way?

Post # 5
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4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

What about Mom walking you down the aisle? Dance with both at the reception.

Post # 7
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3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you should go with what makes you happiest. also I don’t get why your bio dad would be devastated if your relationship wasn’t that close anyway. I agree with your mom walking you.

Post # 8
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717 posts
Busy bee

try to talk to your mom and explain how much it would mean to have her be involved like this and to be the one to give you away, if that’s what you really want.  and then dance with both dads like rebwana said

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My father was also just about the same as yours. Druggy, ect. My mom left him when I was 7 years old & married my step dad two years later.

I never talk to my dad or see him. He doesn’t even live that far away. I talk to him from time to time on facebook if that counts & I haven’t seen him in years.

I invited him anyways. He told me one week before my wedding we wasn’t coming & would explain to me one day in person. That day has yet to come. I found out his first date with his now fiance was on my wedding day. So no need for him to explain.

Needless to say from the get go I wanted my step dad to walk my down the aisle and he did happily! BUT if my dad came I was going to try and make it work by having my mom walk me down instead. I have also heard of one walking you half way down, then the other walking you the rest of the way down. Do what makes YOU comfortable!

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