Post # 1
So I am just on the fence on this… and I of course realize there is no “right” answer, but I would love to hear your opinion- or if you were in this situation, what you did. This is both mine and my FI’s second wedding, and I have an 8 year old daughter. I will be 39 when we get married in June. My question is- should I walk alone or have my dad walk me down the aisle? Obviously he isn’t “giving me away” and I feel like being nearly 40, it seems a bit awkward for him to walk me down the aisle. My daughter is the flower girl, so I thought maybe my mom and dad should walk down together just before the processional. It feels sort of liberating and independant to walk alone to meet my husband to be.
On the flip side, it is a sweet tradition of walking down with your dad- and do I really want to be walking down the aisle all alone?
Advice, opinions all welcome!!
Post # 3
@sunshinebee: I didn’t vote in the poll because really for your, only you can decide.
I’m 31 and a 2nd timeer, (my FI 1st wedding) I didn’t have a wedding the first time, just at the court house. so I am having my dad walk me, but not ‘give me’. I was all set to do it alone, but once we actually started planning I changed my mind
Post # 4
I say walk alone, but not because it’s your second wedding. Because of this, ” It feels sort of liberating and independant to walk alone to meet my husband to be.” You deserve that feeling, the aisle isn’t that long anyway 😉
Post # 5
You can walk in with your FI! It’s a Swedish tradition to do so, to show that the couple are both going into the marriage with joy and that you’re equal. My FI is Canadian, but when I told him about this he was immediately on board as he liked it more than the “giving away” option.
Post # 6
I was an encore bride this past August and I had both my mom and dad walk me up the aisle. While I love and adore my parents and have some amazing photos with them (see below, the one with just me and my dad is a personal favorite), I kind of wish I had walked up the aisle to my husband alone. I don’t exactly regret my choice, but I feel that walking up unaccompanied would have better represented me and my personality. Go with your heart, and good luck!
Post # 7
@sunshinebee: What about walking in together? H and I did that! As mentioned above, it’s the norm in Sweden and H is of Swedish decent. I am 36. My dad has passed away 3 months before we got married.
Post # 8
Thank you for all the feedback! It is a tough decision… And I don’t want any feelings hurt
Post # 9
@sienna76: That is a FANTASTIC idea. I think I’ll run with it. My dad also passed away and my step dad is not very supportive of the wedding so I see no point in obliging him at all. I am relieved to know there are other options. Thanks so much.