"Daddy's little girl"

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
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6032 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s nice, and it certainly makes things easier, but the days of daddy having final say are long gone. I’m a grown woman. I think for myself.

Post # 3
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6644 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I personally think you should be your own person. While it is nice to have ones parents approval or that they like the person you are with. I do not believe it is required or more to the fact needed in this time and age.  And I am pretty close to both of my parents but who I am with does not need my parents approval to do what I want or be with who I want to be with.  

 

Post # 4
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1201 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

My dad is a bit of a tool and twice married, so (from experience!) if he approves too much of a guy, I’ve made a terrible mistake 

Post # 5
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2018 posts
Buzzing bee

Horseradish:  I hate it when you reply to a thread before I can because you usually take the words right out of my mouth, as you’ve done here.  🙂

I would entertain any reservations that my parents had about a partner, just as I would from anyone else I trusted, but the decision is mine.  In fact, I would consider the act of asking my father’s permission for my hand to be grounds to terminate the relationship, as I personally (I know others love it–this is just my own view on it that I apply to my own life) see that type of thing as belittling my autonomy and ability to make my own decisions.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

sarahroby:  Nope! Otherwise my dad would not approve of anyone, ever. However, I know (as a parent) it is hard not to think you should have say in it. 

Post # 7
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1749 posts
Bumble bee

Fuck that. It seems silly to me to need dad’s approval. Also, my dad would approve of anybody more or less.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

It depends. If your dad is a nice, caring, rational person – yes. If he doesn’t like the guy, there’s probably a good reason.

If your dad a bad judge of character, irrational, or just not a nice guy – fuck his opinion. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Umm… Approve how? If my father has huge major issues with a guy I am dating for real reasons (like possible abuse) I would hope he would tell me… But other than that how is it appropriate for him to butt in on my relationship?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

What happens if your father is dead?  You don’t get to date?  Just wondering, since I’d be screwed if this were actually a thing.

Post # 11
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599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

It’s not so much approval or permission for FI and I than it is a blessing. She will be asking my dad, but he and my family already love her, so it will probably be encouragement from him lol. My dad is the only parent I have in my life, it’s very important to me that he be as involved in my life as possible, and this is just one way he can be. Also, FI is quite traditional and it was she who wanted to discuss it with him

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

sarahroby:  I love that my dad loves my DH, but I in no way need anyone’s approval for being with DH. My parens raised my sisters and I to be independent and they knew that I wouldn’t be in a relationship with someone if it wasn’t right for me. DH didn’t ask for permission because the only permission needed was from the two of us!

Post # 13
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Newbee

sarahroby:  i realized something a few years ago.  i love my parents & it’s really nice when they approve of the man you’re with, but it certainly isn’t a requirement.  you have to live with your choices.  you have to wake up next to him every morning, they don’t.  you have to live with your choice, they don’t really have to live with it.  if you want him there when you’re 85 & in your rocking chair, don’t worry about what your parents think.  they won’t even be around when you’re 85!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

for me, yes, but my father is incredibly accepting, so something would have to be really wrong for him not to approve of my relationship

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

No. But it’s definitely high on the importance list, at least for me. I love my daddy, and if dad didn’t love my husband, there would be a problem.

<br />But I am a grown adult. I can make my own choices. I’m the one that has to live with my own decisions, and any consequences that come with it. So while I want my father’s approval, it is not a requirement.

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