DAE sometimes feel having a huge wedding would be easier?

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DAE sometimes feel having a huge wedding would be easier?

posted 3 months ago in Money

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Helper bee

Bears-bub July 21, 2012 Perth, Australia

Here I was thinking organising a wedding with 50 people would be a breeze compared to 150... I am starting to think I was wrong. If I had 150 people I would be completely justified in hiring outside help, I wouldnt have to try and do so much myself. With only 50 people I have pretty much been banned from getting in a planner as its not worth the money for such a small function.

A good example is the MC. As we are only having 50 people, I dont have a DJ as the space is too small for that much noise (and it would be wasted). Because of this I have no MC. I have asked around and no one wants to do it, they want to enjoy the night, not run around making sure its running smoothly. Sigh. Not sure what to do... I think his parents are asking an uncle we hardly ever see as we are running out of people to ask.

Same with decorations, liasing with vendors and organising misc items (like a microphone and speaker system... I only just realised I would need it!). I swear I am not getting anything done when I am at work as I am too busy reasearching and contacting people for quotes, making bookings etc. If I had a planner I would just tell them what I want, meet with them a few times and that would be it. Simple.

I am finding myself becoming increasingly anxious about the whole thing as I am doing all the work (and the wedding is 3 hours from home. Was a nice idea at the time, now I am not so sure). I dont have a lot of married friends and I am the first on both sides of the family to get married so I have NO idea what I am doing and I am freaking out that its all going to fall apart! :(

3 months ago

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Bumble bee

takemyhand July 27, 2012 Ontario, Canada

@Bears-bub: I understand COMPLETELY! I am having 50 people at my wedding and I think I am paying just about the same price as if I were to have 150.. just the stupid things like the hall rental, DJ, MC, coordinator-- they are all based on set rates rather than people.

That being said, I also understand the stress you are under and I think that it will get better! I am also the first of my friends and famly to get married in the last little while and I am currently in the process of beading my own veil that is cathedral length (see: insanity) and I feel like doing so is taking time from the other 200 things I need to do.

As for what to do... I suggest checking out The Knot. It is amazing for lists of what needs to be done and when. Also, I find that a lot of silly things come up as you go along, like will there be music walkng down the aisle, what will play and who will play it? What about gift table? Who will put it away so nothing "disappears"? Feel free to PM me if you want some other "oh crap" moments I've come across planning for such a small number (like who in h*lls name says that you can only rent knives in sets of 100?!)

Good luck! Take a deep breath and know you aren't the only one :)

3 months ago

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Helper bee

Bears-bub July 21, 2012 Perth, Australia

@takemyhand: Thanks so much for that. All the examples you gave of "oh crap" moments have woken me up at 3 am. I only just realized that due to having no DJ I now have no PA system... Just another thing to add to our already blown out budget. Sigh. It was very naive of me to think that a. It would be less stress and b. it would have heaps of money

3 months ago

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Bumble bee

takemyhand July 27, 2012 Ontario, Canada

@Bears-bub: Same! For some reason I thought that the money my parents gave us would cover everything and more. I've spent all but $1500 and out of pocket'ed rings, centrepieces and veil so far. Still have to buy shoes, FI's outfit, flowers, and all paper products, officient, licences and favours.

FML. That sucks writing it down!

I did, however, DIY a TON. I DIY'ed my veil, the centrepieces ($10 each), my sister is designing and printing my paper products, but I have to assemble them, including the pocketfold. SO MUCH TO DO!

3 months ago