- 6 years ago
Hi Hive…another anonymous bee here begging for help 🙁
I never thought I’d be here writing this. I picked my BMs a long time ago, and it was no question. My only debate was picking a Maid/Matron of Honor -and I ended up asking my sister and Future Sister-In-Law, since both are very important to me.
Three of my BMs (my sister and two friends) have been a-ma-zing. Literally, repsonsive, helpful, fun… and Future Sister-In-Law…not so much. I can’t get her to answer emails/texts/calls most days. I know it’s not her job to be super interested in the wedding, but basic questions like “I’m doing a hair and makeup contract, are you interested in getting either done?” aren’t ridiculously hard or asking for any sort of time commitment (and I’m paying, so no financial commitment, either). It’s a yes or no answer.
Now, the girls are trying to plan a bachelorette day prior to the rehearsal (everyone is traveling in from different areas, so this is the only time possible). Future Sister-In-Law responded with “thanks, but I want to hang out with my boyfriend.” Okay, fine, whatever. I asked them all to stay in the hotel suite with me the night before (that I paid for) and hang out, have wine, chocolate, movies, etc, all after the rehearsal dinner, and then we’d all be there for hair and makeup the next morning. Future Sister-In-Law says, “No, I’m not comfortable leaving my boyfriend, since he’ll have to be alone on Saturday when we’re getting ready.” My BIL has already invited him to hang out mutliple times, so he doesn’t have to be alone, and he knows other people who are there and not in the wedding. Honestly, I’m fine if she only comes to one of the things, but am I being ridiculous by wanting her to participate?
My mother says I’ve been over-accomodating to her. I paid for the dress, jewelry, hair, makeup, and told them to get any shoe they wanted as long as it was a specific color. Her family is paying for their hotel and flight, so she’s not on the hook for anything, really.
What do I do!?