Post # 1
Im new and am planning a wedding to my partner sep 23 2012 the exact date we meet on!
With the wedding getting closer Ive come across a problem that i need advice on
After our first dance I plan on doing a dance with my mother who is very supportive of our relationship and one of my bestfriends BUT my FI family wont be attending due to they dont see our relationship as appopraite. Some of her cousins will attend but not her mom or dad. I feel bad because im going to share a dance with my mom and she wont have anyone to share a dance with. Should i still share a dance with my mom OR see if my mom wants to dance with her as well?!
Thanks Bees 🙂
Post # 3
I’d talk to her about it. If she is okay with not having a dance with a family member (some people don’t like to be in the spotlight anyway) then I wouldn’t worry about it. If she does want to be included in some kind of family dance, maybe the two of you can talk about what would be the best strategy.
Post # 4
So excited for you- and I’m sorry to hear you are dealing with homophobia in her family. 🙁
I agree with the above poster, talk to her about what she wants. I think it would be sweet if your Mom would dance with her after you, when you then dance with your BFF.
Post # 5
thanks ladies! ill def ask her because she isnt a fan on the spotligh!!
Post # 6
I am feeling the exact same way! My family will be attending but hers (besides possibly her mother and possibly one of her brothers) will not be. We’re not even sure about her mother and brother at this point. The rest of her family does not speak to her. I like the idea of dancing with my dad (who I am very very close with) but it feels a little awkward that I would and she won’t. Granted, she hates to dance… but it’s the idea of it haha. I’m still not sure what we’re going to do yet.
Post # 7
I like the idea of your mom dancing with both of you 🙂 most of those dances seem to go on forever so maybe you could keep it shorter by splitting a song between the two of you. You dancing first then your mom dancing with her to welcome her as another daughter. That way the spotlight won’t be on her as long if she’s nervous about that.
Post # 8
ok so my FI has decided to stay out of the spot light and just do our dance. says she already feels too much in the spotlight and thats not her thing lol. hey it works and everyones happy!
thanks for the advice Bees