Dancing and drinking! *GASP*

posted 2 years ago in Christian
Post # 2
1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Olgarie:  I also come from a Baptist family. I think it horrified my grandmother that we had dancing at our wedding, but she dealt with it gracefully. Everyone else who wasn’t comfortable with it simply left early, and we partied with our friends. We would have liked to alcohol, but our venue had strict rules against it (it was a Baptist-run summer camp). 

I think the best thing is for you to not say anything and to let them handle themselves at the wedding. If they choose to make a big deal of it they’re the ones who will look bad. 

Post # 4
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’ve been to Mennonite weddings – both with alcohol & dancing and those without.

In those with, some guests leave the reception when the dance portion starts.  Not in a rude way or anything, but it does clear out.

Hopefully the people who disagree with it can handle in a similar, mature manner.

Post # 5
280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m sorry you feel weird OP, but I think you simply need to own your choices. Having alchol & dancing at your wedding? Excellent, you do what feels right to you and your FI. If they aren’t comfortable at an event with dancing & drinking, then they have the option to decline the invitation. You cannot please everyone and if they choose to come to your wedding, hopefully they have the good sense to not be negative about your choices for your wedding.

Post # 6
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I understand it upsets some but I’m amazed that people still find it so “wrong”, Jesus himself passed around a cup of wine. If I’m not mistaken the bible doesn’t say not to drink or dance, but to not be a drunk. And I do believe dancing was spoken of in acceptance in the bible, apart from the false idols. 

I wouldn’t pay much mind to others and their opinipns. So long as no one is wasted or practically having sex on the dance floor.

My husbands uncle is a preacher for a baptist church and refused to marry us, after “much thought and prayer”, or even attend the wedding because we were living out of “wedlock” even though we decided to abstain once we became baptized and closer to our faith.

We stopped having premarital sex after our baptism but because we didn’t move out and continued living together before the wedding he still doesn’t talk to us. Its sad but I’m ok with it, I know we were not wrong. I know how you feel though.

Post # 7
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

i would not entertain their conversations and ultimately its his family so they can go to him with concerns. they will deal with it and you guys may get backlash but it will all wash over. if your fiance is on your side and he wants a bar and dance as much as you then they can go to him so u dont become the wedge between him and his families issues/beliefs.

Post # 8
1801 posts
Buzzing bee

Really?? No dancing? How odd for a wedding…

You do you, and let the stuffy ones handle themselves 

Post # 9
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

They’re family, and they’re going to ask questions and have opinions, but in the end what they think really doesnn’t matter. You are adults making adult decisions. You just have to toughen up and be ready to answer questions directly and then deal with the disapproving comments. In the end they will have to make their own decisions about how they will deal with the situation. At least they will know what to expect!


Post # 10
1826 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Easiest way to deal with questions is to say ‘We haven’t made any final decisions yet.’….and then change the subject.

Post # 11
2064 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Olgarie:  these threads about sensitive soles who can’t be in the presence of alcohol always amaze me. I always wonder if they have the same strict policy about not going anywhere alcohol is served, in their day to day lives, or just when they want to impose their morals on family members events? If  so, do they never go out to eat in a restaurant? Or do they limit themselves to places where alcohol isn’t served…ie fast food and Cracker Barrell?

Post # 12
2787 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Olgarie:  If I may comment, I know it’s 2 months old now. My answer for everything Christian wedding is that Jesus turned the water into wine, and weddings in the Jewish culture has dancing and I’m sure Jesus took part of the dancing…so I say you’re good to go. 

Post # 13
30 posts
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Church

I come from a Pentecostal family and FI comes from a Catholic family but we now go to a non-denominational church, where we will be married and have dancing, but no alcohol. 


PS.  There are many different DENOMINATIONS in the CHRISTIAN RELIGION.  Baptist, Episcopal, Penetcostal, Presbyterian, Catholic are all subsets i.e. DENOMINATIONS of the SAME RELIGION. 

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