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Dancing @ Brunch Reception?

posted 4 years ago in Reception

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Newbee

Virginny TBD Ft. Lauderdale

Hi All,

The lingering question during our wedding planning is: Do we allow dancing at our brunch (11:45-3:45pm) reception? FI is not much of a dancer, nor our his parents. So, if we just have soft background musics playing, he feels he's getting out of the First Dance tradition. He'd rather not encourage dancing.Â

Now, I, on the otherhand (have been dancing since I was 3: ballet, jazz, tap, cheerleading and hip hop), feel that we are still obligated to entertain the guests. We are going to have 3-4 hours with a buffet style brunch. Would it be appropriate to have a small band? Or is that too much for early afternoon?

My only concern is that my family is more likely to get on the dance floor (ie my grandparents that still do the jitterbug) even with an iPod playing. And then if people do get up and dance, I'll feel slighted that I didn't get my First Dance or the Father-Daughter dance.Â

What are your thoughts? FI has been great with compromising lately. So I don't want to MAKE him dance. But I don't want our brunch reception (3-4 hrs) to be bland and boring.Â

Suggestions, bee readers? :)

4 years ago

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Newbee

BlushNot 01/19/2008 syracuse, NY

i think i read some where that dancing isn't typical at a brunch reception.. but these days i think it is perfectly acceptable to do what ever makes YOU happiest!

What if you compromised and had maybe just a small jazz trio, or something like that... just include slower music and a little bit of the more up-tempo tunes (no rockin out to the chicken dance)... you still get your special dances and others can dance if the want to... everyone loves a nice slow dance..... even in the early afternoon

4 years ago

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Helper bee

EK October 12, 2008 Seattle, WA

I'm going to an early afternoon wedding in two weeks with mostly background music (but neither the bride nor groom like to dance).

Our wedding will be on a Sunday, around the same time as yours, and we are having a band and dancing just like a Saturday night wedding. I've been to quite a few afternoon events with dancing.

I think it's up to you, but it certainly would not be weird to have dancing.

4 years ago

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Helper bee

aoedorothee 10/27/2007 la mirada, ca

i was at a lunch reception that was from 12-4pm, similar to your timeline and there was full on dancing and a friend was the dj! the guests had a fantastic time and it actually felt just like an evening shinding because it was so much fun! no one questioned that it was a luncheon rather than a dinner event. it's a celebration and if you wanna dance, then dance!

4 years ago

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Worker bee

kbok

i think it just depends on the atmosphere - if its inviting to dancing. i went to a wedding that was lunch reception also, and although many of the guests were avid dancers, i was surprised there wasn't much dancing at all. i'm not sure if it was the weather (hot day) or if the sun was too bright so people were insecure about dancing? (i tend to like to dance with low light so people wont' notice me!) overall a few danced here and there but for the most part, people chatted and mingled and ate cake. they had a great time with/without it, so there was no need to worry about entertainment.

4 years ago

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Virginny TBD Ft. Lauderdale

Thanks for the replies, gals! Also, yesterday after reading Mrs. Bees post on the Explorers Club post, I thought about how cute it would be if my groom-to-be had a singer/songwriter write and sing me a song in lieu of the first dance.

I think we'll have music and if our guests want to dance, it'll happen. :) And of course I'll get out there. But I won't worry about dragging my husband. lol.Â

4 years ago