Post # 1
I converted to Judaism for my Fiance and the first Jewish wedding I attend will be my own – only a small percentage of his family is attending and they skew older in age, and my side isn’t Jewish at all…so this leaves me worried that when it comes time for the hora, no one will know what to do or lead the charge to get everyone out on the dance floor.
I’m worrying for nothing, right? People will figure it out and dance and have fun, right?
Is it too much to include instructions in the Out of Town bags with the explanation of other Jewish traditions??
Post # 3
Can you talk to someone ahead of time to lead it and make it into a sort of lesson? I’m not Jewish, but I love to try new dances, I would just need a little leading. I don’t think it’s weird to include in Out of Town bags…
Post # 4
Most Horas I have been in are on such crowded dance floors that you are really just kind of walking in a circle.I think if you have a few strategically placed members of his family it will be okay. Also, maybe you can get your bridesmaids to help out by giving them a heads up on what people do. Also, your band/DJ will take care of chair lifting instructions if you plan on doing that part.
I do think an explanation of traditions during the ceremony would be nice but think you can end it with the ceremony and let the reception just go with the flow.
Post # 5
I think you will be okay and people will figure it out! Its not that hard of a dance to learn!! People will get the hang of things once things start toget going! You could watch a video of it yourself to know beforehand and maybe send the video to your BMs so they know too! The hora is so much fun and I cant wait to do it at mywedding! (Oh the benefits of marrying a Jewish man!!)
Post # 6
I bet you’ll be fine—I’ve found that most of my friends who aren’t Jewish know the basics of the hora if they grew up anywhere where there was a bar/bat mitzvah circuit. It’s also not so hard to catch on to, so if you give family (you can teach yours ahead of time, too) the heads up beforehand that there will be people who don’t know it, they can space themselves out appropriately. I actually think it’s a far easier dance to learn by just watching people near you than by having it explained in writing, too, so I’d just skip that part…also beware, sometimes older relatives are the most zealous about it! 😉
Post # 7
i once went to a wedding where the bride’s side of the wedding was jewish… and still my husband and i were the ones who had to go start the hora! (this was a girl who didn’t know a thing about any jewish holiday, so i’m assuming her family was the same) but after a few seconds of my husband and i dancing in a circle by ourselves, people joined in from all sides. like others said, it’s an easy dance to pick up.
Post # 8
I think you’ll be fine – everyone generally just figures it out. I agree with ToBeMrsG’s suggestion of talking to the bridesmaids about it if you are worried, but its really not necessary to include instructions in the Out of Town bags.
Post # 9
thanks, ladies! i think we are going to give out wedding party a little lesson during the rehearsal dinner and ask them to lead the charge, I’m sure it will all work out fine!
Post # 10
It’s not a waltz and most folks perhaps have seen Fiddler that they have some idea of what to do. Once the music comes on, folks will gravitate and it’ll be fun; don’t stress over it so much.
Post # 11
The hora is so so so easy! I would definitely agree that people can pick it up easily. Between random guests that already know it and a slightly prepped wedding party, you shouldn’t have any problems. Maybe you could have the band leader/DJ give a very brief intro to help everyone get in circles and get the chairs, napkin, and chair lifters in place? I also would recommend doing this before people get too liquored up…drunk chair lifters could be a disaster! It’s bad enough they’re different heights and you’re in a big dress, haha.
Post # 12
I’m having this same problem! I think i’m going to send out a youtube to all of my friends, and possibly show my extended family the youtube at the rehearsal dinner to get them prepared. I havent chosen a video yet, but I figure there’s got to be a good one!
Post # 13
every hora i danced was more of walking in a circle than anything else. if you have a few friends more familiar with simcha dancing music just ask them to mix themselves up in the crowd a bit.
we’re having an interfaith wedding and including some jewish elements… we’ll explain them in the program.