Post # 1
Okay – I had stuff to do but just HAD to comment on this.
Mrs. Bee wrote about this when announcing her pregnancy, and I have to agree – don’t assume that every woman is capable of getting pregnant, is planning on getting pregnant, wants to get pregnant – just don’t assume anything regarding anyone and pregnancy. Please?
I was talking with a friend on FB earlier, and I told her we were going to start trying to have a baby soon. An old high school “friend” posted that I just need to enjoy marriage to my new husband because once kids come along they take up all of your time and you’ll never get that newlywed bliss back. Okay, I understand that.
I don’t have a long time to wait, and i posted as much. She then writes back and says she understands, we’re not spring chickens anymore (we’re both 32 – WTF?) but that I should just take her advice, since she has three kids.
Um. The reason I don’t have forever? I had cervical cancer. I had a large portion of my cervix surgically removed. I have biopsies every three months. I was told it will be hard to conceive due to the amount of scar tissue, and that I can realistically expect to have a few miscarriages before I carry to term, IF I can carry to term. Also, they’ll have to sew my cervix closed while I am pregnant.
Yeah, I’m 32. But I’m also possibly going to have a hell of a time conceiving, carrying, delivering… SO. Since I won’t say it directly to her but I need to get it out –
Old high school friend – keep your “experience” out of my cervix and off of my facebook page!! Grrrr!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Ugh, this just upsets me. What a jerk.
And I wish you the best of luck!
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
But very exciting that you are talking about trying soon!!
Post # 5
That’s really upsetting. Totally out of line. Good luck with everything!
Post # 6
true that girl! People need to mind their business and stop trying to tell people what to do! She doesn’t know your life, I hate crap like that. Just shut up! Good Luck with the baby making by the way(have fun) brown chicka brown cow!
Post # 7
I honestly believe that FB is the last place I would ever discuss things like family planning much less the status of my cervix. I am definitely one of those people that absolutely hates when friends put up those kinds of personal status. I hate when people face to face give me unsolicited advice about important things like this which is the business of myself and my FI only and when it happens on FB my blood just boils.
Post # 8
Thank you!! i’m just so irritated!! I try to never assume anything like this for people – you just never know what people have dealt with.
Aaaaaand.. if any of you mommy bees have advice on difficulty with conceiving and things like that – I’ll gladly take it!
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park
Ugh! I feel the same way! I mean, I wish people would just mind their business! You never know what people have gone through, and unless someone asks for your feedback/advice/opinion keep it to yourself! I mean, really! How hard is it?
Post # 10
Nothing’s worse that “friends” who project their sh*t on you. Argh! And on FB too!
Good luck with everything!
Post # 11
No doubt. The best part is that one friend had posted “how is it going – still trying?” and she was being discreet, so I commented and said “yep! Can’t wait – keep your fingers crossed!”. So it’s not like we were just blabbing back and forth about my sex life. Then some girl I hadn’t talked to in probably ten years just jumps in with her advice.
Post # 12
Ugh, I hate when people think they know your situation and that it is their place to share their “wisdom.” Sorry you had to put up with that!
Post # 13
lol that’s the thing that trips me out with FB, people you haven’t talked to since graduation day feel the need to try and be apart of your life and give advice and all this other crap that you really don’t care about!
Post # 14
UGH!!! And I thought all the “wedding wisdom” impartations were bad, that is DEFINITELY far far far worse. Some people!
Post # 15
No advice but ((HUGS)) sorry that yuou had to go through that babes!! If she bugs too much tell her health reasons and that should cause her foot to go so far in her mouth it comes out the other end 😉
Post # 16
That sucks, I’m sorry!
My friends MIL recently told her that people think she’s infertile b/c they haven’t had any kids yet. Um, first, why would you say that and second why on earth would the MIL pass that along?!?!