Post # 1
I just had my final fitting today and realized just how fat my back and arms are, and since then, all I’ve been doing is mentally beating myself up for not working out enough. Our wedding is a week away. Please tell me how to feel better because right now I feel like I look disgusting.
Post # 3
@techie: Honestly, I’m getting married next weekend too and have been hard on myself.
Post # 4
You will (and already do) look nice, if not gorgeous. Your fiance is marrying YOU, not a number on a scale or a dress size. What I would do if you still think that you won’t feel better by the wedding is to have a talk with your photographer and say you want body conscience shots. While you will definitely remember the high points of your wedding, and not your untoned arms, having pictures showing you at your best will be able to quiet anything that made you think otherwise.
Post # 5
@techie:…I am getting married in exactly 6 months…I know I will have the exact same feeling the week prior to my wedding. I keep gaining and losing the same 10 lbs. I know the only thing the ‘really’ matters is that my FI loves me exactly as I am….he loves me with a little back fat and with my arms looking a little ‘chubby’. Enjoy your day….enjoy the love and don’t spend one second worrying about things that in the end dont’t matter! You will be an amazingly beautiful bride!!
Post # 6
@techie: I know exactly how you feel, but let me tell you- I was not at my ideal weight on my wedding day- and my arms and back were not as firm as I would have liked…
but I swear I have never felt more beautiful in my life than I did on my wedding day! (and i was really hard on myself and how my body looked too)-
NO ONE, not even ME noticed any of that- once your dress is on, your hair is done, your makeup is on, etc…the overall look is so beautiful and striking that those little “imperfections” we notice daily melt away.
Seriously. I’m not just saying this to make you feel better. You will look and feel gorgeous!
Post # 7
Do you have a veil? My arms are huge, and I was planning to have the arm lift surgery, but I ended up with a torn rotator cuff and couldn’t have the surgery. I have fat arms. I did find that one of the veils I tried on with a wide satin trim did a good job of disguising it. Fingers crossed it will work on the day. Also, make sure yours arms don’t rest against your body. A good photographer will get you with your arms away. This was a great tip from my sister.
Post # 8
I’ve heard a little tan can make you look firmer. Maybe a quick spray tan or some of that self-tanning lotion willl help?
Either way I’m sure no one but you will notice. Good luck.
Post # 9
@techie: techie!! I swear I’m not just saying this, but I think you look beautiful in your gown. Once you have all the accessories together and your hair and makeup done, I don’t think you’ll scrutinise your arms and back so much.
It’s easy to be tough on ourselves because we want to look “perfect” on the day, but when your guests and FH are looking at you, they’ll be looking at the whole picture – not concentrating on those parts of your body.
If it makes you feel more comfortable, keep your veil on. You are wearing your hair down, so that will also help conceal some areas that you aren’t too comfortable to show.
Please believe me when I say you have nothing to worry about. The gown really elongates the body and shows the good bits!
Post # 10
@MrsElopement: We’re our own worst critics. :/
@alyse0688: That’s a really good idea. I’ll add a little request when I submit my shot list.
@misskittykakes: I know our FIs love us just as we are. it’s tough when you get this far and had envisioned sonething else. :/
@Evie19: You were such a gorgeous bride. I’ll try to keep that in mind during the day and try to not obsess over my insecurities.
@MrsTimmy: Ouch!! I’m sorry you won’t get to have your surgery. I agree aboutgetting the arms away from the body. I like my hand on hips photos the best.
@mrsromo: I’m considering the lightest spray tan possible to even out my tan lines. It might help.
@Vera Girl: I know. I’m so frazzled right now and went into the fitting a bit emotional, so that didn’t help. I might keep the veil on but I’ll play it by ear. I don’t want it to be too much of a security blanket. Thank you btw!
Thank you everyone
Post # 11
You know what? On the day, when you see yourself all dolled up with your dress on and your makeup and hair all perfect, you will feel gorgeous and that feeling will be with you every time you look at pictures of yourself after the wedding.
I didn’t lose as much weight as I wanted to, but when I look at pictures now I think I looked pretty damn good and I know my husband thought so too!
Post # 12
@techie: 🙁 You’re going to be SO beautiful!! I felt gorgeous on my wedding day, even though when I look back on some photos you’ll see so much back/arm fat from certain angles particularly when I was sitting down. Try to take a moment to yourself and just breathe and take it all in. I promise it will all be okay!
Post # 13
@techie: You will 100% be gorgeous.
Its natural to feel emotional and frenzied and self conscious days before the wedding- but it doesn’t change the fact that you’re beautiful and you will feel it. 🙂
Post # 14
@techie: Listen (or rather, read) this carefully. You are mad. Yep, I mean it. I’ve seen your recent pic in the gallery and thought at the time how wonderful you look in that dress. It’s a phenomenal dress that looks phenomenal on you. You have a wonderful figure and rock the Vera.
Everyone needs something to stress about. If this is your something, so be it, but please, don’t let it get you down.
I look forward to the recap pics, when I assure you, everyone will tell you how amazing you looked and there will not be fat arms/back in sight.
Post # 15
Oh hunny, you’re going to make such a beautiful bride. I know it. (hugs)
Post # 16
I just want to say that you look amazing. Try not to be hard on yourself, I’m sure all brides to be go through this phase and think of all the things they didn’t accomplish for the goals they had for how they will look. I’m sure I’ll do it to. I hope your wedding is wonderful and you forget about all your insecurities at least for that day.