Post # 1
I wish I had a big tree with money growing on it..
I wish we did not have to search for the best price on everything..I wish we could just walk in to a bridal store and pick out the shoes that I absolutly love…It can get pretty frustrating at times!
We are having a pretty small (70 guests) low key wedding in Holland, we can’t afford a big formal wedding and it really wouldnt be us, but still…it would have been nice!
I keep seeing all these amazing weddings popping up on my computer screen and right now I just want to go rob a bank to give us more money to work with! I’m just jealous at the brides that get to wear a Vera Wang, the people that have the most awesome 6 tier wedding cakes, the weddings I’ve seen with giant chocolate fountains..with, I kid you not, PINK chocolate, I wish we could have that!
I know it’s most important that I get to marry the love of my life, the father of our amazing babygirl, but right now I just wish I was “Beyonce”-rich!
Post # 3
@Dutchbee: Chocolate fountains are full of bacteria…does that make you feel better? =)
Post # 4
@peachacid: lolol so true.
Post # 5
@Dutchbee: I feel you, girl. I get so jealous about money… not as much about the wedding, but more about clothes and stuff like that. I wish I was one of those people that could just go BUY a $150 purse or even $50 worth of clothes without making a pro-con list for each purchase! If I’m spending more than $20, I’m glued to my computer for HOURS looking for the best deal. Ugh. I think it’s sort of pathological.
Anyway, there are a lot of less expensivee food options for weddings, actually! AND a lot of those beautiful looking foods are not very tasty!
Post # 6
@peachacid: Really? I did not know that! It does make me feel better regarding the wedding…on the other hand..I LOVE the chocolate fountains at one of our fav restaurants…so now it’s gonna look gross everytime we go there!
@bkrocks13: I know right! I can’t just decide to buy new shoes or whatever…it sucks so bad! And normally we live an okay life…we’re not poor but we sure as hell aint rich! I drive a pretty tiny car and I still don’t own a smartphone (I know…I still live in 2010) but this is our wedding, we could wait for another year but always something comes up..and we would have to spend the wedding fund on that..so we decided to do it this year…within our tiny budget and try to make it work, we could take out a loan or something but that just seems redicoulous for a wedding…I mean…at the end of the day…it’s JUST a wedding (If only I keep telling myself that)
Post # 7
Dont go to places marked bridal, go to places that are not marked wedding and get wedding things. Shop online for discounts and discount stores. Your are overpaying for wedding things at a wedding place. Don’t covet other weddings you don’t know what they are on the hook for or how much they paid for it. Focus on what you want and screw everyone else. There are ways to get what you want if you keep an open mind. Look at the beautiful almost completly DIY weddings here:
Money doesn’t equal elegant. Focus on what you want and find a way to make it happen.
Post # 8
TBH…they are never the highlights of the wedding anyway! At my wedding, barely anyone seen the cake until it was cut up and on their plate. ANY dress can look amazing as long as it fits right, and it`s your style.
And also, you can find lots of amazing wedding decorations and accessories in those classified ad websites…such as kijiji.
Post # 9
I totally get it, i was jealous about lots of things when planning my wedding. i could not afford the invitations i wanted, or the dress or the limo i wanted. i had to get cheaper versions of all 3. i still had a great wedding though, why you ask, because i married the most amazing person in the world and had a great time dancing with my friends. those little things dont matter in the long run. i know it means nothing to say this now (been a bride, done that) but i promise you, none of that stuff will make a differece the next morning
Post # 10
@Dutchbee: I understand how you feel but as another poster said more money spent on something does not mean it is necessarily better or nicer. It certianly could make things easier.
The most recent wedding I went to was a sit down plated meal. Filet Mignon and other beautiful things on the plate. Each setting had 2 roses carved out of butter!! There was a small cake on each table decorated to match the big wedding cake. Ya, know what? The food was nothing to brag about and the pretty cake was dry and bland.
The fancy servers in tuxedo’s were not exactly on the ball, we waited forever to get our food.
The brides family has A LOT of money. Trust fund baby’s and grandbabies. They spared no expense on anything.
Do I have to watch for sales, coupons and do a lot of DYI…yes I do. But I get a satisfaction that our wedding has my personal touches
Post # 11
Please try not to get dishearted OP. I really understand it’s hard when you see others have extraordinary weddings. I can’t afford to have everything I want, but I’m not going to let that deter me from having an amazing wedding. Every wedding is unique just like the bride and groom creating it. Be happy in your choices and remember your main goal is to build a loving and successful marriage.
All the best x
Post # 12
My favorite wedding I went to was in someone’s backyard. It was beautiful and awesome.
@lifesaride: I had a similar experience. The wedding I enjoyed least was probably the most expensive. Fliet mignon and all that, and a chocolate fountain. Oh, and I thought the chocolate fountain was totes gross so it is vindicating to hear about the bacteria.
My wedding was very inexpensive and everyone had a great time. So dont lose heart OP.
Post # 13
My daughter’s wedding was 5K for 65 people. It was what we could afford. Four years later, my daughter and son-in-law still talk about their wedding. They loved their wedding. They still tell me that their friends still say it was the best wedding they ever went to. I worked hard to make it just what they wanted with the money we had. I put the money I had to make the best bang for our buck for what they wanted. Sure, I wish I had more money to spend on them, because they are great people and I love them dearly, but you know what, I am pretty happy and proud of with what I was able to accomplish none-the-less. Set your priorities, go with what is most important to you and your groom for the best price you can, and be proud of what you can do.
Post # 14
@bkrocks13: +1. I am very jealous about money too, but not for our wedding. I am not too fussed about having anything elaborate for that, but I would like to take lavish trips and be able to spend my time doing what I want to do, rather than being a slave to a job. It sucks that the majority of the wealth is divided amongst the smallest population but such is life. Le sigh.