Date changed 6 months before wedding….Bridal shower etiquette HELP!!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you move the bridal shower if the date of the wedding moved to over a year out?
    Yes, having it over a year out is rude. : (10 votes)
    83 %
    No, guests will understand. : (2 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
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    965 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @DGB38:  My personal opinion is that yes, you can have the shower but EVERY gift remains in the box with the tags unused until you do get married. (That is traditional etiquette, the not using the gifts part.)

    open everything to make sure that nothing is broken, but after that, put it in the basement until the big day. 

    Post # 5
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    965 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @DGB38:  will the shower venue move your sisters date and use the same deposit. Sometimes they will, so that is another option. 

    What does your sister want to do and what does your mom think? 

    Post # 7
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    2649 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @DGB38:  Opps. I voted it would be rude. Not because I actually think it’s rude so much as odd. I missed where you said the invitations had gone out and your sister had paid a deposit on a venue. In that case, I think it’s okay.

    Two  caveats to that though:

    Consider your guests. If it’s mostly close family and friends, they will probably understand. However, if you’re having a large party and you think a lot of the guests will be put off, it’s probably best to reschedule.

    most importantly, anyone invited to the shower MUST be invited to the wedding. If it’s possible your plans will change, then don’t proceed with the shower. If it turns out you later can’t or don’t want to incpvite the same guests to the wedding, that would be extremely rude and you will come off looking greedy and gift-grubbing.

    Post # 9
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Oh, no! What a pain. I would move the shower back.

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