Post # 1
My fiance and I are looking to get married in December of this year, and are choosing between two dates: 12/6 and 12/20. We’d prefer to do 12/20 because it would allow us to go on our honeymoon the following Monday – We’d be going over the holidays and we already have off from work. Our only concern is that it might inconvenience people with it being so close to Christmas. We can still do 12/6, but then we’d have to wait until 12/21 to go on our honeymoon and I like the idea of just jetting off on our honeymoon a couple of days after the wedding. I don’t think I’d like having to wait two weeks.
We considered doing it on a Saturday, but since it’s so much more expensive at our venue on the weekend, a Friday is our only option. We are also not interested in doing it on Friday the 13th…creepy… so that’s out.
Any advice? Would you just suck it up and go with 12/6 to avoid inconveniencing people? Or would you go with 12/20 and take the risk?
Post # 3
I think it all depends on how many people you are inviting and who they are. If it’s a small family wedding and you know your family won’t care then I would do the 20th but if you are having a big wedding with a bunch of different friends and family then I would do it the 6th.
Post # 4
@chrissyb464: Also consider your anniversary. If you get older and have kids, doing Christmas and things might make it harder to celebrate your anniversary. Or other family gatherings, if you’re generally close to your family and/or celebrate Christmas
Post # 5
@chrissyb464: Unless choosing your preferred date of 12/20 would preclude any “must have” guests (parents, grandparents, siblings, etc.) from being able to attend, I would choose the date that you and your FI really want and let the chips fall where they may with regard to additional guests. I’m sure you will still have a large number of family and friends choose to attend your wedding regardless of the fact that the date is only five days before Christmas.
Post # 6
How many out of town guests do you plan to invite? That would influence my decision a lot, I think.
Post # 7
I would do the 6th! I was going to have my wedding July 6th, but decided to go with the 13th because I knew people would be busy and going out of town for the 4th of July. Good Luck!
Post # 8
Traveling for a wedding on 12/20 is going to be cost-prohibitive for many people. I’d do the 6th, or the 13th (I was born on a friday the 13th and can promise you that it is not an unlucky day).
Post # 9
If it is small or mostly local, then do the 20th. If it’s larger and/or you have quite a few OOT guests, then do the 6th.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone! We’re trying to keep the wedding to about 80 or 90 people. The only OOT guests are two people in the wedding party, but they’d be coming back to the area for the holidays anyway since their families are out here, so the 20th is actually more convenient for them.
Post # 11
were going with the 21st for the same reasons! my fiance has a large family that are a little scattered around the country but they all come home for the holidays so its actually more convenient.
Post # 12
6th. 20th is way too close to the holidays
Post # 13
I’d go with the 6th… but heck, FH and I are waiting six months for our honeymoon haha.
Post # 14
@chrissyb464: In that case I say the 20th. For most guests, a wedding is just one day, so I don’t think it would significantly impact the “Christmas rush”. Here in Australia December is summer so I’ve been to quite a few mid-to-late December weddings and it’s never been a problem for us as guests.
Post # 15
I would go with the 20th! All of my OOT guests always come in town for Christmas so it was convenient for them to only make one trip. That’s why we did ours 12/29. About 95% of our guests attended.
Post # 16
Unless it was a very, very good friend or an immediate family member I wouldn’t go to a wedding right before Christmas. Flights will be insanely expensive, the highways will be jam packed, and the cost is just too much with Christmas just a few days later. I think you should be considerate to your guests and do it earlier. It’s easy for you to delay your honemoon by 2-3 weeks, it’s harder for others to give the time/money to an event so close to the biggest holiday of the year for most Americans.