- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
(I posted this a minute ago under my real username, but decided for the sake of possibly being identified, I’d go undercover for this one.)
I’ve been an avid reader of these boards for the last 6 months, but this is my first time posting with an issue, and I am eager to hear your suggestions.
Fiance and I are planning our wedding, and he’s been great with everything. He is helpful and understanding, and overall our plans have gone smoothly. Until today, that is. His first cousin, “C” got engaged about a month before Fiance and I did. However, C’s intention the entire time has been to have a destination wedding in Hawaii with some close family and friends and have a reception ceremony back home. Originally, he talked about having the Destination Wedding in August, although now he is planning for the wedding to be in October or November.
Fiance and I set our wedding date for Nov. 15 almost immediately when we got engaged (in September) and shared the date with family immediately. I just found out tonight from Fiance that “C” has planned his reception to be on Nov. 15th. Keep in mind that we sent out STD cards in February, so it’s not like he was unaware of the conflicting dates. And, our weddings are in two different states, so it’s not like family could split the day.
My Fiance has been great about all of this, and there is a very small chance that any family would attend his reception over our wedding. In fact, only C’s immediate family would likely attend his reception, but we weren’t counting on their attendance anyways. Still, I can’t help but feel that his choice of a date is extremely rude, especially when you consider the fact that he has A.) Not planned his destination wedding date yet and B.) That he just now planned this date 2 months after receiving our STD. Am I being irrational? What should I do?