- 5 years ago
For reference..my story: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/breakup-advice
I HATE DATING. I hate the stupid mixed messages. I hate the “Oh let’s take it slow” AAAGGGGH!!!!
So after Mexican kayak guy, I started feeling a lot better about myself and started to think that it was time to stop wallowing in my grief and try to move on with my life.
I thought it would be a good distraction to start talking to men again so I joined three dating sites.
There’s one guy in particular who I immediately felt a strong strong connection…nothing like my previous relationships where I felt like I was forcing it. He’s also recently out of a relationship. I feel like I am falling in love with him but after a period of uncertaintly he expressed that he was afraid I might be using him as a rebound and felt the need to protect himself. :-O I think he likes me but he seems less certain that I am. I feel so out open and out there and vulnerable while he assesses whether he wants to be with me. I guess my feelings are a bit out of control and am rushing but honestly I feel a bit rejected.
He’s very busy which I understand but I know for a fact that he still spends a lot of time on the dating site that we met on. He doesn’t call me but we do occasionally text (very sparsely). Everytime we are together it is like the world is right and we are passionately on fire. It is crazy but maybe I am just naive and that is how dating is?
The thing is I’ve tried to dilute my feelings for him by still going out with others which is just awkward. I have had some HORRIBLE dates. Then there are the ones that are okay and like me and actually put effort to text me regularly- it just makes me sad that the guy I am actually into is not like that.
AGH what does all this mean!? What do I do? I guess be patient and see how things go but this is SO SCARY!