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I don't know. I think I would want to focus on my child and getting this prepared for when my child comes.
But if there was a guy I was interested and he was interested in me AND knew that I was pregnant, I would probably casually date him and let things naturally happen from there.
I guess if I were single and pregnant, and happened to find or know someone I really cared for, I wouldn't not date him just because I was pregnaant. That said I don't know that I would be actively on the hunt for someone new while pregnant, I'd probably focus on me and the baby.
I was wondering how things worked out for you - I am hoping it all worked out for the best . Sounds like you are moving on and that's great!
I wouldn't. I mean if someone happened to come along let them know your child comes first but it doesn't seem like a win win or anyone.
I personally don't think it would work for me. Many people rush into a new relationship too soon after ending a previous one and some make disastrous decisions just because they are lonely. Most of us still have issues and feelings to sort out before moving on.
It would take a very special set of circumstances for me to want to date while pregnant. It definitely isn't something I'd want to be doing, and would actaully try to avoid it. I'd want to be focused on preparing myself and my life for my child.
There are some circumstances in which a woman would be pregnant and willing to date which is why I brought it up. I saw the movie The Back Up Plan. Here was a woman who wasnt fresh out of a relationship that resulted in a pregnancy, but a woman who wanted to have a baby and was going to do it without a man. Then she met someone...
I wouldn't be looking or thinking about dating someone, but if the right person came along and it felt right- I would probably say yes. But.. it'd be best to have my life together first. Being a single mom is tough enough.
Honestly, I just don't see how it would be possible for me. I changed so much the moment my daughter was born. My husband and I had to adjust a lot in the last three months, both personally and as a couple, and we've been together for 6 years. I can't imagine trying to make those adjustments with someone I had only known 6 months...
Not to mention the fact that I was pretty sick for most my pregnancy; most guys won't take you on a second date if you puke on them. :) (And unfortunately, I did this to my husband more than once!)
This was something that they talked about a bit onthe tv show Teen Mom. For most of the girls, dating while pregnant and as a new mom was sort of disasterous, but now that the babies are a year or older, some of them are starting to have successful relationships with new people.
I think you made a tough but good decision, by the way. I'm sure it won't be easy on your heart for a while but the future is bright :)
I know a celebrity reference is not the best advice for real life situations but this reminded me of Heidi Klum and Seal. It worked for them. She not only found a happy marriage but he became like a real dad for the baby afterwards. Of course we're not all supermodels...
Personally, I would spend my pregnancy focusing on me and the baby. A newborn is a crazy amount of work and becoming a mom is a huge life transition that deserves your full attention. When I'd developed a relationship with my baby and figured out how to support us and care for us, then I would consider dating someone new.
Anyone you meet worth dating now will still be worth dating when the baby is born.
I was single most of my pregnancy and did not date. I just dont think I would have felt comortable dating someone i barely know while pregnant. I was also a hormonal emotional wreck and did not want to start a relationship in a state like that! Everyone is different though. When i was 8 months pregnant my ex boyfriend (now FI) from before my childs father confessed his love to me and i was like whoaaaaa bad timing buddy! As much as i wanted to tell him i still loved him too i knew it just would NOT work out at that time in my life. When my daughter was 3 months old and I was settled in mommy mode we decide to give it a shot and never looked back :) I think the difference between most scenerios people have given and mine is FI and i dated for 3 years before i got pregnant so i knew him and knew i wouldnt have to strive to impress someone or for their acceptance. I already had it. I could still put baby first (not that i wouldnt ever anyways!) That being said, I totally think you could date.. but IMO it wouldnt be easy at all during pregnancy. I'd say after baby comes and your adjusted to mommy life ;)
@meliss: haha. LOTS men would want to date pregnant Heidi Klum. I don't think lots of men would want to date pregnant me.
I got the Backup Plan on netflix last week. And while it's a cute movie, I think it's so unrealistic. Most people would not be able to sucessfully date through the stress and changes of a pregnancy.
I got hit on ALL the time when I was pregnant.. Even if I hadn't been engaged I still wouldn't have felt comfortable dating while pregnant. It's just weird, almost like they have some kind of perverted fetish. Sorry, thats just my opinion! lol
I say date now before the baby comes... 1. youll pretty much get a feel that they are ok with children AHEAD of time... 2. once the baby comes not so much time for dating and I dont agree with bringing people (men) in and out of babies lives...
I'd be worried that the guys I was dating were perverts with pregnancy or breastmilk fettishes.
I cannot imagine summoning the energy to date while pregnant. Plus the homones, moodiness, low libido and general feeling of unattractiveness. If you can, I say go for it. But, I think studies have shown the people we're attracted to while pregnant/on the Pill are not the same people we would usually be attracted to. Some sort of evolutionary thing. So I wouldn't advise getting too serious.
sorry to take this convo "down a notch" but this made me think of this video, lol
Pg13?
http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/532c07277b/she-gotta-bump
More seriously, I think all my crazy hormones would've made it hard to date someone unless it was someone I already knew really well...like, all of a sudden I saw my male best friend in a new light or something...but even that could backfire and ruin your friendship if you are just feeling vulnerable...best of luck to you!
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I am no where near ready to start dating again. But I was wondering, how many of you would or have dated while preggers?