Daughter dating a registered sex offender?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
6969 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was in 8th grade at age 13…pretty sure I knew the difference between sex and “playing doctor.” Personally he wouldn’t get a second chance from me.


Post # 4
4367 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would get in therapy with my kid, pronto.

Considering he broke conditions of his release, that was his second chance – so no.  Especially with a 4 year old in the picture?  Hell no.

Post # 5
2783 posts
Sugar bee

@Westwood:  +1. He knew what he was doing. That’s gross and I would not be ok with my daughter or granddaughter being around him. 


I think it depends on the crime though, an 18 year old having sex with his 17 year old girlfriend could be charged on statutory and become a registered sex offender. Honestly, I think that’s forgivable. Hell, someone could literally pee on a park in the middle of the night and be forced to register as a sex offender. As awful as it is, it happens. Which is why I say it depends on the nature of the sex crime…but in this instance…no way.

Post # 6
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would DIE inside. I would BEG to watch my granddaughter for ALL of their “date nights”. And if he were ever going to move in with her, I’d probably try to get custody.

Anything to save my hypothetical baby granddaughter!

Post # 7
4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Not only did he begin at 13, at which point a boy would know better, but it continued for fours years until he was 17 and the girl would have been 12.

No way would that guy be around my kids.

Post # 8
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsPanda99:  I don’t know.  That’s a tough one.  8 & 13 seems like a pretty big age difference (at that age) and I’m sure he knew what he was doing.  There is a difference between inappropriate touching and actual intercourse though.

I think he probably deserves a second chance, BUT I wouldn’t leave him alone with my young daughter, and I would likely insist on therapy, both he on his own and as a family (and probably for my daughter on her own as well to make sure she is okay and nothing is happening). 

I believe that we all make mistakes, especially as young people, and too often those mistakes are held against us. 

EDIT – missed the part about it going on for 4 years…that makes it a little harder to deal with…I really don’t know.


Post # 11
6667 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I saw that episode.  That was not a case of two teens in highschool who had a little too much age difference.  That guy is a perv.  No way I’d allow that to happen.

Post # 12
2783 posts
Sugar bee

@MrsPanda99:  you never know though, I hear cases of mothers knowing sexual abuse is happening to their kids and not doing anything about it. I’d hope that he has enough common sense not to do anything of te sort now that he is old enough tto understand the consequences but you never know. I personally do not believe that sexual predators change and I would not trust that man around my child. Ever

Post # 13
1018 posts
Bumble bee


“Apparently the daughter sleeps in the same bed as her mother. The boyfriend spends the weekends there and sleeps in the bed with them.”


Oh hell no. I was trying to keep an open mind about this, I was definitely thinking “umm no” after he tried to EXCUSE his crime by saying he was “playing doctor” but now I’m in the HELL NO camp and this woman is seriously putting her child at risk. Child molesters don’t just stop! They just get sneakier about it.

He could be doing things to that little girl while her mom sleeps. Even if he’s not yet, this arrangement is telling the little girl it’s ok to be in bed with him and he will use that one her when the mother isn’t around.

Just yuck…if an adult wants to date a sex offender than sure, do what you want I don’t care, but do not put a helpless child in danger.

Post # 15
1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

In this case no way in hell.  That being said lots of people (mainly men) end up on the sex offender registry for very questionable reasons (a 18 year old having sex with their 16 year old partner, homosexual behavior, etc.), so I think it needs to be taken on a case by case basis, and in this case no way in hell.

Post # 16
1018 posts
Bumble bee

@MrsPanda99:  Very true. That almost makes me think it wasn’t a coincidence he chose to date a woman with a 4 year old girl…My sister was a young single mother and she had a very difficult time dating…

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