Post # 1
I decided to walk into David’s Bridal and try on some dresses…
I have to say the experience was pretty bad.
First of all, I have a big chest to begin with and the consultant gave me a very padded bra. This made my back a few inches bigger. This resulted in dresses not zipping and the salesperson having to bring me dresses in one and two sizes bigger then my normal size. This then resulted in the waist of the dresses falling off of me and the dresses being gigantic. I didnt want to take the bra off and or go braless because I am modest and already felt kind of naked in front of this lady in a thong and a strapless bra. I seriously found the entire experience humiliating.
I am not a huge girl, but these dresses made me look ten times bigger then my normal size.I am not sure why. Was it because they were two sizes too big? Was it because the skirts on the bottom had like ten layers of cheaply made fabric?
I also felt like the consultant did not listen to me. I know my body shape. I explained to her that I needed dresses with Bodices that had a line underneath before the skirt. It is slimming on my body type. I do not like mermaid style dresses as I feel they are not flattering. I felt like most of the dresses she was bringing me were mermaid and/or they did not cut off like I had asked.
In the end, I left there kind of mortified. I decided to make an appointment at an upscale boutique where the dresses range in price from 1000-4500. I want to see if the better material on these dresses make a difference or if I really just have a hard to dress body type.
I have to admit I have never had an easy time finding dresses off the rack that fit amazing. I am 5’10 and 150 pounds. Did anyone else have similar experiences? Anyone have any tips to make the experience less humiiating? Are more expensive dresses more flattering due to the material?
Post # 3
At the majority of other boutiques you won’t even be given the long line bra – so if you’re already uncomfortable id consider wearing tights or something underneath and maybe a tank top?!
in my trying on experiences I had to go down to only my knickers on every occasion. One shop even changed me in front of my mum. Considering we hadnt spoken for years this was humiliating for me.
With regards to the sizes remember btidal runs a size smaller too. And if you are busty this combined with a small waist and larger chest probably contributed to your unhappiness with the fit.
Woth regards to to the fabric they should have clipped it in so that it wasn’t loose on you. It’s strange if they didn’t do that. By all means try other places if you have the budget for it, im sure you will find other nice dresses, and hopefully the consultant will listen to you!
Post # 4
I wore my own strapless shapewear (basically the same coverage as a one-piece bathing suit) when I went to try on dresses. It fit well and was modest enough that I felt comfortable if people saw me in it. It sounds like part of the problem was the bra didn’t fit throwing your figure off balance. The consultant at AA still wanted me to put on their long line bra. Why would I wear their bra over my own? Also she kep bringing me things I told her specifically I didn’t want. Finally I pulled out my phone and searched their website so I could show her the exact dresses I wanted to try. At DB the consultant kept telling me how flattering a dress was with “no extra help” even after I pointed out that I was wearing shapewear. Consultants at the chain stores are clueless.
Post # 5
I had a great experience at DB.
Post # 6
I am a bridal size 14. I wear a 36E bra. I went to a salon that sells maggie sottero, Casablanca, and alfred angelo. I looked through the books with pictures of all their stock and picked what I wanted to try on. The consultant gave me a petticoat to wear which covered my butt/legs and I kept my normal bra on until I had picked which dress I wanted and then I took it off. I felt a little self conscious being bigger but they had lots of samples in my size and they were very sweet.
I’m sorry you had a bad experience. Try a different salon and see how it goes. Everyone deserves to feel comfortable and beautiful while picking out their dress.
Post # 7
I had an awful experience with DB just when I was trying to book an appointment! They were rude to the point that I didn’t bother to go see dresses there. I did go to another chain dress store in Ontario that was an experience a lot like yours….they kept bringing me dresses that were NOTHING like I had said I wanted to try on and the consultant kept talking about how she was going on holidays after her shift was over and couldn’t wait to get out of there. That was my first experience with trying on dresses and it was my least favourite.
I suggest booking at a small boutique. I went to one where they really talked to me about what I was looking for and made suggestions of what they thought would look good. They let me get into the dress in the fitting room on my own than came in to do up the dress for me. They were so helpful that I bought the 3rd dress I tried on Plus, they made me feel really special and like I was the most important bride there (same experience for all my friends that have bought there too!)
Hope your next experience is much better!!
Post # 8
Do you have your own strapless bra you could wear? Being in your undies with the sales girl is pretty standard practice, but I always opted to wear my own undergarments.
Post # 9
I am large chested too and those stupid, not my size push-up bras they make you wear were so not helping fit for me. My mom kept rejecting dresses because there was too much clevage which got infinitely better when I took the bra off. I too found that the consultants at the chain stores don’t really know what they are doing, and my DB consultant also wouldn’t bring me the style of dresses I had asked for. I got my dress at a small botique that did not povide a bra (didn’t need one because the dresses were so well constructed). the consultant would hand me the dress through the curtain and I’d get in it then she would zip me up so I wasn’t really half naked in front of her. Then again while my body is not perfect (or even what would be considered a good body, I’m def overweight and over-muscular for a girl) I believe that my body is what it is and I am not ashamed of it. I’m sure the consultant has seen both worse and better than me. It took me quite awhile to get comfortable with myself, but you know what really helps? My FI thinks I’m always sexy and pretty even at my heaviest or sickest. I think our two opinions are really the only ones that matter.
Post # 9
I’ve been in a David’s Bridal before, I honestly hated ALL of the dresses I had tried on, my prom gowns were made of far better quality…They one’s I had seen in the catalogue seemed pretty, but in person just looked very cheaply made. If I were on a strict budget I would possibly consider one (maybe), or if I wanted to do a “trash the dress” photo shoot maybe, but otherwise I had a very similar experience to yours.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
I know a lot of people who had really negative experience at DB. I went with a close friend and she felt like livestock at an auction – in, rushed, and back out ASAP. The consultant disregarded her style, kept bringing her dresses that looked cheap and were the opposite of what she specifically asked for, was EXTREMELY pushy about trying to get her to close the sale (she wasn’t sure and wanted to text some pics to her mom), and actually made a really nasty comment about “lookie-loos” when my friend balked and decided to sleep on the decision. She’s not the only person who won’t go back there if you paid her! I will be skipping them altogether. However, some people do fine there. I guess your mileage may vary.
Post # 11
Your DB experience could have been written by me. I had the exact same problems. The longline they gave me was too big and added a few inches to my mid-section, and everything I tried on made me look frumpy. The consultant continuously kept trying to put me in mermaiad/fit and flare gowns even after I’d told her multiple times that I just didn’t like them with my ruler-like body shape. It was not a happy experience.
Post # 12
Eh, my experience was fine but I wasn’t looking for that Say Yes to the Dress moment.
Post # 13
I had a terrible experience at David’s, but that was because my “consultant” just abandoned my mother and me for close to 45 minutes while I was in the middle of trying on dresses. Nothing she pulled was my style, and everything I put on (when she was there watching) was “just perfect” in her opinion. Feels more like a used car sale lot than a bridal boutique, in my opinion.
Post # 14
I had a fairly positive experience at DB, and actually bought my dress there. I, too, had to wear a super-padded longline bra that made the dresses fit awkwardly, even though I had brought my own strapless bra. The salesperson only pulled 2 of the dresses on my list. I tried on some unflattering, fugly (IMO) dresses that she picked, just to be polite. The last dress I tried on was the one I ended up getting, and of course it was on my list.
Sorry your experience wasn’t good! DB seems to be hit-or-miss from one store to the next. Hopefully your next appointment is better =)
Post # 15
I hated DB as well. They couldn’t bother even asking my name. I felt like cattle. I’m also only a size 10 and a 36F so none of their bras fit me either.
One piece of advice I was given was to have my first dress shopping experience at a nice, high end boutique. I followed that advice and was grateful that I did. I loved my first shopping experience. I was treated like a queen! Although I went to 10 more stores before I found my dress, I was so much more comfortable after that first time. Of course the risk is that you will fall in love with a dress that you can’t afford at the high end salon but I mitigated that risk by staying within $500 of my budget. So I didn’t try on all the best designer gowns at that store but I had a knowledgable consultant who listened to me and was able to find the right style that worked for my body. After that, I just tried on dresses of that style in other stores.