Post # 1
I am wanting to have a casual day after the wedding breakfast. Is it wron to have it at the hotel restarant and let guests pay for themselves?
I was planning on letting them know about the get together – time: location etc. and order from the menu type thing.
Is anyone else doing this or is it tacky?
Post # 3
In the OOT baskets for our guests, we had a note that said we’d be in the hotel restaurant during certain hours, and if guests wanted to join us for brunch, we’d be happy to see them. We also included pricing information of the brunch (flat fee for buffet) so guests knew it was non-hosted. Mostly only immediate family members did brunch, with a few extended family members.
Post # 4
I personally think that if you mention a brunch, you should pay.
Post # 5
I think what Miss Chapstick is doing fine and you could go that route and not offend most people. We’re likely having a day after BBQ, but only for the OOT guests, but we’ll be covering that ourselves. Again, most likely as we haven’t fully decided.
When I went to my cousin’s wedding in Philadelphia the next day she had a late lunch/brunch at the Redding (reading?) Terminal Market with us and we all paid for ourselves. It wasn’t in any of the wedding info and it was fine, but I’m pretty sure it was only for close family. I wasn’t offended in any way, nor was my highly traditional grandmother (her grand-aunt I suppose).
Post # 6
I think Miss Chapstick has the right idea. We would have liked to do something like that, but we have an early flight the next morning. Plus, apparently half our guest list is going to the race!
Post # 7
We’re planning on doing a “no host” brunch, and posing it similarly to Miss Chapstick. To me, people are going to eat anyway, and we’re just letting them know we’ll be in the reataurant eating to give them a chance to say hello and mingle with the other guests. Since it’s an extra event – not something guests should reasonably expect you to pay for (like the reception), I don’t think that anyone should have a problem.
Post # 8
We have invited people to meet us in the lobby if they want to eat breakfast as a group, and we marked it in the invitations as a “pay your way” activity. I think it’s fine to tell them that not everything is covered. They are there to share the love, but expect everything to be paid for!
Post # 10
We are lucky that any guests who stay at the hotel get breakfast included in the price of their room. But if that wasn’t the case, we would have done what Miss Chapstick did. I think it;s okay as long as the guests know it isn’t hosted.