Post # 1
So, my fiance and I have differing views regarding the day-after wedding brunch and I’m trying to come up with a happy medium… or possibly just get my way, to be perfectly honest.
Traditionally, my family gathers together the late morning after for brunch and finger foods. Its super casual, but an opportunity for family and close friends to get to spend a little one on one time with the bride and groom before they leave for their honeymoon (or in our case, drive 10 hours back to our home). Usually, the bride and groom open their wedding presents as part of this. This is what we’ve always done and to me, its just what should be done but my fiance is very against opening the presents in front of everyone. He hasn’t shared why, and maybe it makes him uncomfortable, but I just don’t see it as an issue. To me, I figure that if our family is taking such a huge part in our reception, driving from 6 states away and bringing presents, we should be courteous enough to open them with them and show our appreciation in person.
Just looking for other views and trying to really understand other standpoints on this. 🙂
Post # 3
We had a day after brunch, mostly because we had a lot of out of town people and I figured if people were paying for a hotel the least I could do is give them breakfast. We also opened gifts, but mostly because our parents wanted us to and we didn’t care either way. I wasn’t super excited about it because I do think it is terribly awkward, but I didn’t REALLY care if they wanted us to.
I definitely don’t think it is necessary though. It IS super super awkward and I don’t feel like it would be a big deal to just not and then send cards later.
Post # 4
We did a really casual brunch, but didn’t open our presents there. I don’t think anyone really enjoys that part and we wanted to focus on spending time with our guests that traveled. Darling Husband and I opened our gifts just the two of us and it was a fun thing for the two of us to share.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
We’re planning on it because lots of FI’s family is coming in from out of town so I think it will be nice to see them again and spend more time before they have to go home!
Post # 6
My husband and I opened our gifts with my mom the day after. We only had about 3 things to open since we mostly got cards with money!
Post # 7
I think you should change the pole to give brunch options and gift opening options:)
Post # 8
I believe my FI’s parents are going to throw a brunch. I would be excited to have one, because our family is so spread out throughout the United States and I so rarely have a chance to see them. I most definitely would not haul my presents there and open them though. That will be awkward enough at the shower.
Post # 9
We did breakfast with DH’s Out of Town family and then went to my parent’s house for a very casual gift opening with just immediate family.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We has a day-after brunch and have attended ones for others. I think they are a great way to spend more time with people. But the opening of gifts is totally foreign to me. I’ve never heard of that, and I know the idea would have made Mr. LK very unhappy. He dislikes being at the center of attention. So while he was glad to be in the spotlight for our wedding day, asking him to do so again the next morning would have been asking way too much of him. Can you two compromise? Have the brunch, but no gift opening?
Post # 11
My Fiance and I made the decision over a year ago to abstain for sex prior to the wedding and our families know that… I think it would really awkward getting together the very next day
Post # 12
I didnt even know this was a thing till I got here =)
I’d so do it if I had a destination wedding.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
We didn’t have one, but I was just at a wedding that did. Gotta be honest, it was kind of nice, but totally not necessary to me. And I’ve never heard of opening gifts in front of your wedding guests. If you’ve got the budget to host one, I say go for it. It wouldn’t hurt.
Post # 14
We opened our gifts by ourselves the night of the wedding. It was a special way for us to wind down the night.
We DID have a tiny brunch the next day. It was literally JUST our two sets of parents. We actually did this so we could tell his parents that we’re pregnant (my family knew). It was nice!
Post # 15
I think it would be weird to open presents after the wedding, but if it was my DH’s family’s tradition, I’d get over it and just go with the flow.
Post # 16
We’re hosting a casual drop-in day after brunch. Most of our guests are Out of Town and we wanted to have the opportunity to actually visit with people if it fit with their travel schedules. It won’t be mandatory and we really just want to see our family and friends without the stress of the wedding and schedules and stuff!
We will not be opening gifts there. I think it’s out of place and inappropriate, but that’s just me!