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@silver25: You are NOT required to provide brunch, you really don't even need to have a huge reception either. That being said, guests don't have to bring gifts either :) If you've read much on these boards, you'll find that Long Island/NYC is especially crazy about guest expections for weddings.
It seems that with today's weddings, if guests are staying at hotels for your wedding, they do tend to expect more than just the traditional cermony and reception. We are doing a wedding up in the Finger Lakes where almost all of our guests need to travel a few hours and stay in hotels - so we are offering a welcome cocktail hour, the regular reception, an after party and then a brunch buffet the day after the wedding. We are paying for it all ourselves too and it's definitely challenging to keep the budget in line.
I personally think it's a bit rude for your guests to ask if you are providing them with breakfast the next morning though - so far anyone that I have told about what we are providing is really gracious about it.
If they start to get really annoying, you can mention that there is a bagel shop up the road.
A day after brunch is becoming more common. We had one for our guests, and we really enjoyed getting to spend even more time with them. But if it's simply not in your budget, I wouldn't stress over it. It's an option, NOT a requirement.
I don't think you're required to do anything you don't want to. Especially if you don't have the finances to do it. Your friends will understand, they should just be happy to celebrate such a joyous occasion!
We did have a day after brunch for our wedding party. I would say no one in our wedding expected it or even realized there was such a thing. But this was the 1 event we had all weekend where we'd have the opportunity to spend time with just our wedding party and their SOs so we wanted to do this for them.
It's becoming more common, but it's definitely not required. My mom and step-mom have been disagreeing about this- my step-mom says we have to have a next-day brunch because we have so many out-of-town guests, and my mom wants to have gift opening w/ just the close family the next morning.
Does the hotel you are using serve breakfast? A lot of hotels offer at least a small breakfast buffet. If they do, then you could stop by the breakfast area at the hotel in the morning to great the people who stayed there, and you wouldn't have to put together or pay for brunch yourself.
Thank you all so much for your responses. What's crazy is that everyone staying at the hotel lives about 1 hour away.
With that being said my husband to be birthday is the next day after our wedding and I would like to spend the day at the spa with him so we can relax after all this craziness.
Hi Silver,
Tell them you were not plannin on organizing or planning anything, as you are likely to be tired and would like to sleep in with your new Mr. Provide them some recommendations of where to go (the Cook Room!) or maybe include some granola bars/fruits/juices in welcome bags for them.
Good luck!
I hope not! The last thing I want to do the day after my wedding is get up early!
My sister in law did it at the 56th Fighter Group and it was fine. We went for their brunch special.
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Hi,
I live in suffolk county NY which all my guests live in the same county as well. My wedding is being held out east at a beutiful venue by riverhead and I booked a hotel in the area and reserved rooms which the guests are paying for if they choose to stay. The only thing I was gonna provide is the Shuttle service taking them from the hotel to the venue and the venue to the hotel.
Now, I have them asking me If I'm providing breakfast brunch the next day... My fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves with no help at all. Times are hard and I feel that they are not understanding my financial situation. Also, we are not taking our honeymoon till the summer so we can save for that now and they are fully aware of that.
Is it customary for Bride and Groom to provide that?????