Day Care for couples who both do long shift (10-12 hours) work

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

chasesgirl:  We aren’t TTC yet, but we have discussed this.  I also work rotating 12 hr shifts and he works M-F 9-5, however we both have a minimum 1 hr commute both directions.  So with commutes we’re looking at 10 hours for him.  

We live in Canada, so I get a year’s mat leave.  That really helps.  And my mother has said she would like to do child care (sounds great to me!) I’d need her at most 3 days a week, but those 3 days would be probably 10 hours. 

I know my coworkers have part-time Nannies.  2 families split a nanny (and the mums – who both work with me, work opposite days, so when one is working the nanny is at her place and the other is at home with her children.)  It helps that live near one another (the nanny lives on her own.)  Others pay for full-time care but only have them in part-time (that sucks!)  And they have to pay for early drop off and late pick up.  One has a live-in nanny.  The rest make do with random family pick ups/drop offs, they start late or finish early if they can get it (we don’t always have the ability to grant it, basically you work through your lunch and take your lunch at the start/end of the shift.)  Our employer has an emergency child care account with a large corpration for emergency care (including overnight daycare.)  You have to opt in on the program, but once you’re registered you can use it as needed (the payments come off your cheque, and it’s not cheap!  But it is reliable and it is a last resort.)  

Honestly, its a pain with shifts.  The world is not set up for people who work our hours.  A lot of my coworkers come back after their mat leave pregnant with their next, because then they’re off for a year within 8 months or so.  It’s a lot of short term stop gaps until kids are in school (we have full day kindergarten here, starting at age 3 – 4.  So then its just before and after school care.) 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

My neighbors have erratic work schedules and have hired an in-home nanny. I imagine she’s not cheap, but she does other things for them throughout the day, such as light housework, grocery shopping, etc. She is also teaching their child to speak 3 languages other than English (Cantonese, Mandarin and Japanese).  The nanny does not live in their home, but because she works only for them, she can be very flexible around their schedule.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I run a licensed centre and can tell you that if a child care centre closes at 545, they close at 545 and expect children picked up and gone by 540 or earlier. You may have some flexibility with a home centre (someone who does care in their home) and you could probably offer to pay extra for late pickups. Or consider the idea of a nanny. Someone who comes to your home and you pay them for the hours of your choosing. My sister uses this option as she is a paramedic and works shift work and nights and her husband often has OT.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

chasesgirl:  I work the same kind of shifts.  645p -645a and 7a-7p because we have a 15 min overlap at night for switchoff.  Can you move to straight nights or straight days?  I worked straight days all summer and wanted to gouge my eyes out with a spoon.  I actually like rotating shifts.  But recovery after nights is brutal.  I worry about trying to do it with a toddler!  I have the option of going to reduced hours for the year following my mat leave.  I may take that.  It’d be 50% pay, but I could do reduced hours nights and we could probably make that work.  There’s a number of people at work who use that to their advantage after their last kid.  

Good Luck!  I’d love to hear how you guys make it work!  

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I feel like the options would be 1. family taking care of your child or 2. a nanny.

I am a nanny, and I would actually prefer to work 3 12hour shifts a week. You would definitely be able to find someone who would prefer the longer shifts. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

When will you ever sleep? DH works 12/24/36 hour shifts as an EMT, and he’s exhausted when he gets home many times, so I let him nap while I’m with the baby. I just work 2 days a week, 10-5, and it can be really tough on him after being up all night.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

 

chasesgirl:   I work privately and found a position. I have taxes taken out every paycheck, but I have no benefits. :/ 

Nannies charge depending on experience and location. For example, I am in a rural area in Florida. If I commuted an hour to Orlando I could make a lot more money per hour. If you are in a big city, for good care you will have to pay more. The level of care will change the cost as well- do you expect housework to be done (laundry or vacuuming), do you need the nanny to drive your child to soccer practice, homework help, more than one child. Lots of factors increase the amount. It is one on one care with your child in their comfort zone which makes it much better than daycare in my opinion. 

When I was looking for a job, there were people who wanted to pay the equivilent of 2 dollars per hour. or they wanted to pay $200 a week. for 40-50 hours of care!!!!  I know that some people work for a weekly price, some pay per hour. Usually it is 10-15 dollars per hour. The nannies I know anyways, but it greatly depends on your location. It’s hard because for the parents a nanny gets really expensive!!! BUT for the nanny it is her sole income. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

At the daycare I used to work at they would not allow a child to be there more than 10 hours a day (which I think is more than reasonable), as they thought the child should see the parent for at least a few hours a day. I never understood the kids that were there everyday from the time we opened until the time we closed (even after they were told about the 10 hour rule), the parent needs to see their child, if they don’t then what was the point of having one?! Sorry, that just bugged me, not saying you’d be like that!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

chasesgirl: Can you work just weekends?  Until your child is in school, and then maybe switch to a clinic or doctor’s office?  If you worked Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, maybe you would not need any daycare, if your hubby works Monday through Thursday.  It would be hard, but it might be worth it for a few years when you have little kids.  I think your best bet is staggering your shifts with your husband’s as best you can.  Also, does your hospital offer daycare?  One the bright side, you will have 4 days off a week.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by  NavyBee.
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Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

_blackbird_:  DH and I both work in the medical field as well and like OP work 12-14 hour shifts – there is no other option.  Are you suggesting that healthcare workers not reproduce?  Or should I abandon my career once my son is born just because three days out of the week, I am working?  What about single parents or parents who have fallen on tough financial times?  A good friend of mine has had to take on a second job to support her daughter.  Yes, some days she is away from her daughter for more than 10 hours a day.  Does that make her a bad parent?  There are infinite reasons why GOOD parents may need child care for 10+ hours a day.  Think about that before you judge. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

chasesgirl:  I work 08:00 – 20:00.  My husband works 07:00 – 18:00.  We’re expecting our first child due at the end of this year.  We have the option of paying for late pick up at the daycare that we’re using so DH will race to get there after work on days where we are both working.  Mine is a rotating 2 week schedule with weekends but DH is off weekends so “week 1” DS will go to daycare on Wednesday only and “week 2” DS will go Monday, Tuesday, and Friday.  When he is school aged, we will most likely hire a part time nanny to get him off of the bus and stay with him in our home until DH gets home from work.

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