(Closed) Day of Coordinator – Taboo?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It never hurts to ask. The worst thing she’ll say is that she does need the extra assistance.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

hmmm tough one,  I am always so awkward with negotiating things.  I would probably just not ask for the discount and take the 2 for one deal before 2013!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

You could ask. She might say no or might say ok especially if she’s just starting up or something and just wants to build her portofolio.

I found a lady who does DOC work and asked her if she would bring her price down for less hours because like you our wedding will be pretty minimal with 60 guests. She happily agreed but said no when I asked her something else second time around(can’t remember what but probably the price). She’s been great though. I feel like she’s doing more than I thought she would be doing. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think there’s any shame in asking.  For example, our photographer let us pick bits and pieces of the photo packages we wanted and negotiated our own little deal.  The worst she can say is “no”!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Can’t go wrong with asking.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just talk to her and be honest. She may need the second set of hands to help with set up/tear down or maybe not. If the second person is there to help HER then why does that have to come out of your pocket? In the end though as long as everything gets handles it’s worth every penny. Our DOC brings her husband to help and I don’t believe we have to pay for his services. We may pay him with food though 🙂

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Do you have any friends or family friends that you can ask? My friend has agreed to be my coordinator. We’ve been friends for years, but were not in a very close place at the time of my engagement so I didn’t ask her to be a bridesmaid. In recent months, though, we have become close again, and she said she’d do it for me. Another best friend of mine asked if I needed a host for my wedding, and after a lengthy conversation, she volunteered for that position. So I’m getting all of this help without having to pay for it. I will, however, buy them a nice gift to show my appreciation. It helps that my coordinator friend isn’t “in” to weddings and the girly part of it, so her personality goes right along with the “job” description.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would explain to her what you really need done and ask if you think the assistant is necessary.  Add a line like, “If not, would it be possible to negotiate the price to $X?”

Good luck!

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