Post # 1
FI and I are having an intimate wedding (less than 20 people total – no bridal party, like I said before our budget is going towards the honeymoon). We do, however, want a DOC. We want the day to run and transition smoothly, we don’t want to feel like we’re hosting our own event, and we want to make sure we follow our timeline so we aren’t charged extra and spending a ton of time “just hanging out” around family that has some turmoil (I’m sure some of you can relate!)
I found a DOC that I really like, the company is currently running a deal where if you book prior to the end of the year you get an additional coordinator to help with setup, tear down, etc. The thing is we have very minimal setup or tear down so I really don’t feel like we need an additional person. Due to the fact that our event is 50% shorter than her typical DOC package, she’s already taking about $200.00 off the total price bringing it down to just under $700 for the day as well as both she and her assistant.
Would it be taboo of me to ask her whether or not we could forgo the second assistant (which is only included as part of the book before 2013 and get another assistant free) and instead take another 100-200$ off the price?
I figure she doesn’t take a financial hit really because she does not need to pay this second assistant to be at the wedding. I also don’t want to offend her if she honestly feels that another person to help setup and tear down such a small wedding is necessary – we’re not even having a reception…just cake and champagne.
I really don’t want to offend her and I’m not sure if it’s taboo or not to negotiate with cost…or make these kinds of suggestions. Can you bees weigh in on this for me?
Post # 4
It never hurts to ask. The worst thing she’ll say is that she does need the extra assistance.
Post # 5
hmmm tough one, I am always so awkward with negotiating things. I would probably just not ask for the discount and take the 2 for one deal before 2013!
Post # 6
You could ask. She might say no or might say ok especially if she’s just starting up or something and just wants to build her portofolio.
I found a lady who does DOC work and asked her if she would bring her price down for less hours because like you our wedding will be pretty minimal with 60 guests. She happily agreed but said no when I asked her something else second time around(can’t remember what but probably the price). She’s been great though. I feel like she’s doing more than I thought she would be doing.
Post # 7
I don’t think there’s any shame in asking. For example, our photographer let us pick bits and pieces of the photo packages we wanted and negotiated our own little deal. The worst she can say is “no”!
Post # 8
Can’t go wrong with asking.
Post # 9
Just talk to her and be honest. She may need the second set of hands to help with set up/tear down or maybe not. If the second person is there to help HER then why does that have to come out of your pocket? In the end though as long as everything gets handles it’s worth every penny. Our DOC brings her husband to help and I don’t believe we have to pay for his services. We may pay him with food though 🙂
Post # 10
Do you have any friends or family friends that you can ask? My friend has agreed to be my coordinator. We’ve been friends for years, but were not in a very close place at the time of my engagement so I didn’t ask her to be a bridesmaid. In recent months, though, we have become close again, and she said she’d do it for me. Another best friend of mine asked if I needed a host for my wedding, and after a lengthy conversation, she volunteered for that position. So I’m getting all of this help without having to pay for it. I will, however, buy them a nice gift to show my appreciation. It helps that my coordinator friend isn’t “in” to weddings and the girly part of it, so her personality goes right along with the “job” description.
Post # 11
I would explain to her what you really need done and ask if you think the assistant is necessary. Add a line like, “If not, would it be possible to negotiate the price to $X?”
Post # 12
Thank you all so much, I really appreciate it!!!