Post # 1
So, my SO and I were talking last night and I thought to myself that he should feel as cleaned, polished, and beautiful (err, handsome) as I will on our day-of. So we decided that we would get him, his brother (and BM), and father a shave package at a local old-school shave bar. He seems REALLY excited about it, and thinks it will be a great gift for both his brother and father for the wedding (they will also get a round of golf). My ONLY concern is this, my fiance’s brother’s boyfriend will be hanging out with them the whole trip.. but since he isnt part of the wedding party, my SO thinks we shouldnt get him the shaving experience (since its $55). Theres a good chance one of his Uncles will also be accompanying them the morning of, so his fear is even if we buy one for his brother SO, then its weird to not buy it for everyone coming, since his brothers SO isnt involved in the wedding, just coming as a guest.
What are ya’lls opinions? Should we just pay for the best man (he has no groomsmen), and his dad, or do we have to include everyone that will be with my SO that morning?
Post # 3
@Excited To Bee: I think you mean “Men’s Edition” in the title of your post.
Do you intend to surprise his brother (BM), or wil you tell him what you have planned ahead of time?
I don’t think you are obligated to treat all the men. If you tell the brother ahead of time, he can tell his boyfriend what the plans are and tell him that he is welcome to just tag along, or get the full shave for himself on his own dime.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
While it would be nice for you to get the package for all of the men, I don’t think anyone will be surprised if it is just the dad and brothers. seems understandable enough.
Post # 5
@julies1949: I did. Thats what I get for trying to do too many things at one time. Embarassing, hahah. We werent going to tell him exactly what was going to happen until the rehearsal dinner, when everyone gets their gifts, we were only going to mention he shouldnt shave for a couple days prior. Should we just go ahead and tell him?
Post # 6
@Excited To Bee: You can still tell him at the rehearsal dinner. He has the rest of the evening to tell his boyfriend about the plans for the morning.
Post # 7
I’m doing the same thing with my FI and his groomsmen. I’m also sending along the fathers, and my brother whos not in the wedding, but thats my choice because theyre all “my” men.
Post # 8
Just pay for the members of the wedding party; it’s not weird, nor will he expect to have his shave paid for. He does not HAVE to get one either; he can shave himself that morning, just like the morning before, and the morning after 😛