Post # 1
Okay, FI and I have made the decision to have our photos taken prior to the ceremony instead of inbetween ceremony and reception. We will be looking our best, and the excitement will be there. Plus, without a cocktail hour, we don’t want our guests to wait too long to eat. A woman from my church and her husband did their photos prior, and some of those shots are the most touching I have ever seen.
However, my mother thinks that this isn’t “traditional”. She knows that nowadays most couples live together before marriage, so no real surprises. But she doesn’t think he should see me before I walk down the aisle. He won’t be seeing me prior to that. He is staying at a hotel the night before to avoid seeing me until that moment when we meet for photos. I say it is still special, and it will be a private moment for us, instead of him seeing me when everyone else does. Are we being wrong, or should we stick to our plan? BTW, we are doing this ourselves for the most part. She is purchasing the cake and invites.
Post # 3
A first look was the best decision we made. It was absolutely my favorite moment of that day, to have that private moment. It takes nothing away from your walk down the aisle.
Post # 4
@brendaray2009: Stick to the plan, but then again I am biased. We took all our pics befrehand, and I think that is what helped me feel very relaxed after the wedding. I was on time for the wedding, but everything else after was like a tornado hit my house. I was so busy I barely had time to eat, so taking pictures would have been out of the questions. For time’s sake and for the sake of having that intimate moment between you and your FI, I would say do it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@brendaray2009: My DH said that the moment when I walked down the aisle was still incredibly special- your mom will get over it. This is one decision that really does not affect her.
Post # 6
We did this and it was the best decision ever! Honestly, I think it makes the first look more special because there isn’t so much else going on. You can take a little breath and a bit of privacy and get to see one another before everything gets too crazy. It may not be traditional, but I think this is an improvement on tradition! I was so glad to have these few moments with my husband before we got married. We got to see each other and appreciate how amazing the other looked all decked out in wedding finery, and have a minute to go “Holy Crap – we’re getting married – YEAH!” It was great and I highly recommend it. It will also be much appreciated by your guests. And you will get more time to spend with your guests, which was really important to me.
Post # 7
i think you should stick to what you want. we didn’t do a first look, but i wish we had because my husband’s niece and brother in law were practically standing in the middle of the aisle completely blocking my view of my husband. the whole time i was walking down the aisle, all i could think was, “move out of the way! i can’t see him!” i really wish we (or i) had been able to enjoy that moment more.
Post # 8
I am SO excited to do a first look. I wish more people did it! I think it’s going to be SO amazing when you get to see him, just the two of you and the photographer, for a bit of time together before the ceremony. It’ll be your last time to be alone as an unmarried couple. Also, you’ll get some awesome pictures because you won’t be rushed knowing all of your guests are waiting for you to get to the reception. I’ve heard a lot of people say that seeing each other in the aisle isn’t ruined by having a first look because it’s different.
Post # 9
A lot of people don’t even know how that tradition came about, and why it’s considered ‘bad luck’ to see the bride…
Back in the day it was customary for weddings to be arranged, and was more of a business deal between two families. Rich guy marrys woman who will bear his children and take care of them (more or less haha), so the reason the groom doesn’t see the bride before the wedding, is because people feared that if they saw eachother, and he didn’t like what he saw (or vice versa I’m sure), they might not go through with it which would cast shame on the brides family. So there is no real superstition, and the tradition itself is fairly bogus. Just like the fact that bouquets were originally used to help cover the brides smell since her yearly bath was typically in May, and weddings were usually held in June 😉 hahaha.
So with that being said, do the photos before. You’ll look picture perfect, and you can share a beautiful moment with your s/o first 🙂
Post # 10
@brendaray2009: We are doing a first loo and photos prior to the ceremony. I want it to be a moment the FI and I share, that will be more personal than walking down the aisle. I also don’t want to have to leave my guests and my party for too long after the ceremony.
Stick with what you want
Post # 11
@brendaray2009: I think you should definitely stick your guns. Although we are waiting til I walk down the aisle for him to see me, I have read lots of posts from other bees that have made me think again about doing the first look pre-ceremony. Every post I read talks about how emotional it is, and how it doesn’t take anything away from walking down the aisle. I do love the idea of being able to be with him before, since he’s the only thing that calms me down when things get crazy (like my family LOL) and having that time to enjoy each other and get amazing pictures before hand. There are so many reason that you SHOULD consider the first look shots!