Post # 1
My mother recently talked to/suggested that I hire a day of wedding assistant. We are already (way) over budget and I have an All Star wedding party. I’m thinking between my girls, the church coordinator, and my florist setting everything up besides our favor table- we can forgo the added expense of the day of assistant.
What do you think? Thoughs and suggestions welcome. Thanks!
Post # 3
I really couldn’t justify spending the money on a day of assistant either… but I did appoint one of my closest girlfriends my day of organizer. (Granted I only had my sister standing up for me so I didn’t have to worry about her needing to be elsewhere..) She was the perfect person for the job because she used to plan events back in college. It was just really helpful to have someone else carry all of the vendor numbers with her in case something came up and be aware of our schedule (to keep us on track)… She also did the little things I didn’t want my family to worry about like handing out corsages and calling our venue coordinator to make sure all of the vendors had shown up and made their deliveries / set up. And while my husband and I were off taking pictures between the ceremony and reception she was making sure that our escort card table looked good and that all of our added decorations were in the right place. We did have coordinators both at the church and the reception, so she maybe didn’t have to do as much work as some, but I felt so much better knowing she was there for me.
The question is whether you have someone you trust to help you out with this. Certainly your girls can help out but sometimes it’s nice to have one central person to be in charge. I did not actually pay my friend for her help, but I was planning on giving her a few giftcards to her favorite stores as a thank you.
Post # 4
since you are already over budget why don’t you look into finding an aunt or uncle who is reallly great at organizing ect to fill in this role? Or a girl/boy friend who could help you out. That way you have a person in charge double checking everything so you don’t have to worry but you are not shelling over more money. They could fill this role as a gift to you…
Post # 5
Well, my DOC ended up being invaluable to me! I had 6 bridesmaids, but I didn’t want to put them out to work. After the ceremony, everyone was drinking and having a great time. I would have felt bad to say “hey, instead of enjoying that champagne, can you please go set up the reception area and make sure all the candles are lit?” Having a DOC made everything run so smoothly… I didn’t have to think about a single detail. My husband and I had so much fun and had time to enjoy with our family and friends. I was REALLY skeptical about the whole DOC thing at first, but honestly, things would not have run smoothly without one.
Post # 6
How I see it, if you don’t need it, don’t get one. If you have family or friends that are great organizers, I would talk to one of them about supervising until the reception, which after that it should just be smooth sailing. If everything really is just laid out and won’t require a lot of attention, I would say just nix it. But if you think that a day of would really help pull everything together, I would leave it out as an option. Definitely weigh out your options and make sure it is completely worth it, and if you do decide to get one, look around for the best one for your already maxed budget.
Post # 7
it seems like you have enough staff and support to cover most of your day-of needs. Since you are already concerned about your budget, I think you will be just fine without one.
I considered a DOC too, but with prices starting at around $1,000, I just couldn’t justify it. Althought i was initially worried that having my BMs do some jobs would make them not enjoy the reception, they insisted upon helping out and assured me that it would not be an inconviennce. So i divided up all the little tasks amongst them, so each only has 2 or 3 little jobs to do.
Post # 8
Always a good debate, and it’s so hard to determine because the value of a coordinator shows during and afterwards. As a wedding coordinator, I just wanted to help you clarify what you are looking for… it sounds like you are looking to cover just your set-up needs and not someone to help manage the entire wedding day. Based on what you have described you have family, friends, wedding party (the labor of love party) are helping, along with your vendors (who of course, the florist will set out their flowers, just as the bakery should deliver and set the cake). And with a very straight forward, minimal set-up, you can totally pull this off! I don’t want to oversimplify set-up because what one make think is simple is anything but, but sometimes set-up can be very minimal, and many weddings survive with just this type of help (labor of love).
So… I would recommend thinking about what you are most concerned about with on your wedding day, and work backwards on how things are going to get from Z to A. And find out where you are lacking the organization or flow. Wedding coordinators do not replace your vendors (do know, that once vendors complete their services, they are off and gone, so also be sure to give consideration to, how do the flowers get from the end of reception to say, brunch the next day) There is much more to wedding coordinator services than setting up items. But if that’s all you need, then consider if the additional services coordinators bring to the table are something you are willing to invest and add to your day. Maybe it’s not for you, and know there is no right or wrong way. Just as you are doing, seek advice to learn if it’s something that would add value to your day. Every couple hires a coordinator for different reasons (some because they have never been to a wedding and have no idea how to put it together, others need someone to act as the buffer between family members, others don’t want the wedding party to do anything but party, some just like to have a “boss lady” around, the reasons are so personal to each couple!). Any which way you proceed, just be sure to think through the details and how you want them to unfold, and trust your decision!
Post # 9
We didn’t hire one, but I’d met with a bunch of them. I ended up hiring a friend of mine who does events, in return for helping out with her wedding. Since her wedding is in November, she’s in “wedding mode” anyway, and she’s great with delegating and dealing with vendors.
Post # 10
Unless you REALLY need it and don’t have a close friend or family member that could help you, I wouldn’t. $1,000+ is so much to pay for someone’s time, especially if you’re already over budget!