Post # 1
I had a walk through on my venue this last week and its got me thinking a lot more about the timeline the day of. I’m feeling a little anxious about it as I can’t figure out a few details. I thought I’d try to explain and see if I could get any advice.
Question 1: Our wedding is in a backyard of an old vicorian house. The ceremony is in the grassy section of the yard and this will also be where cocktail hour is. The rest of the yard is taken up by the tents/table and the dance floors. There is a patio but it will be somewhat small with the food and desert on it. So my first questions is where do the guest go after the ceremony? We will be removing the chairs after the ceremony and moving in the bar but until that happens where do they go? Inside? I suppose we shut one room off for signing the marriage license.
Question 2: Photos! First of all I can absolutely see why people do a first look! We are not doing one so please leave that out of your suggestions. I don’t want to leave our guests waiting for long so I want to try to be back within 1 1/2 hours. For photos we will leave the fenced backyard and walk around the property. The trick is that my Future Mother-In-Law wants a photo with her whole family of 35 people. With that many people she think it will take 15 minutes to do. I’m not excited about one photo taking up a big chunk of photo time. When do we take this photo? MY Future Mother-In-Law idea is that as everyone sits down and starts to get food, her family comes outside for the photo. However this would mean we wouldn’t do a big entrance into the reception and probably not get time to eat.
Post # 3
“I don’t want to leave our guests waiting for long so I want to try to be back within 1 1/2 hours.”
Is that typical? I’d be bothered if I had to wait that long.
It does not take 15 minutes to stage a photo with 35 people. We have several groupings with roughly that number, and each took a minute or two at best. Put your Future Mother-In-Law in charge of making sure everyone is lined up at the right time, like before you make a grand entrance (that’s when we did ours). Then everyone goes in. Then you make your entrance.
The one group photo that upset me was a big group photo that the IL’s wanted of their family that involved taking 1/3 of the guests into the hall during dancing. I thought it made it seem like everyone was leaving and the party was ending. Say “no” upfront!
Post # 4
It’s not totally clear to me from your post, but I’m hoping you mean that the cocktail hour will be going on WHILE you’re away taking photos, not that the guests will be forced to stand around idly for 1.5 hours before getting anything to eat or drink or place to sit down?
I would say that the guests can be ushered into the indoor area while the ceremony area is set up for the cocktail hour (hopefully this would take less than half an hour?) Ideally there could even be some kind of light refreshment available indoors while this is going on. Then they come back out for the cocktail hour. Meanwhile you are away doing your photos. You would miss your cocktail hour, but that’s the tradeoff for not doing a first look in my opinion.
As for the timing of the large group photo, I would try to do this as the very first thing (while the chairs are being changed over after the ceremony). That would make it so that the 35 guests aren’t really missing anything, and you don’t have to miss your grand entrance and dinner eating time! And the guests don’t either.
It’s a complicated situation but I think it could work out in this way!
Post # 5
Ok just to claify, when I say waiting, i meant waiting at cocktail hour. We will have drinks and food and light music.
@Melini: its kind of nice to hear that someone else isn’t thrilled with the idea of 1/3 of the guests leaving the wedding for a photo
@rolling berry: I think you are right that the photo needs to get done first before we loose everyone and spend 20 mins trying to find everyone. I think removing the chairs will only take 5 mins or less but its awkward to remove them with people standing there.
Oh details! 🙂
Post # 6
Yeah these kind of details are tough! I had a lot of timeline trouble myself at my wedding.. always so complicated!
That is a really good point about doing the photo before everyone wanders off and you have to gather them up, too. It takes longer to find everyone for photos than to actually take it!