Post # 1
We went to look at a really nice venue today. We really like it! It has hardwood floors and includes linens, china, and CHIVARI chairs (which im slightly obsessed with). Only thing is, the food minimum for Saturday night is 1000 shy of being our ENTIRE WEDDING BUDGET. The Sunday afternoon minimums are almost half…Wedding would have to be at noon and we would have to be out by four pm. I have always really just envisioned weddings as night time affairs. With dinner and dancing. Plus my colors are darkish (plum, black, green,) and I don’t know how well it would play during the day. And being we are inviting his half of the guest list from out of town (3 hours away) would it be too much to do it on a sunday afternoon? Would it be weird??
Can you guys help me with some pros and cons of day weddings? I’ve never been to one.
Post # 3
Hi! I’m having a Sunday daytime wedding, and it’s been a pro in the planning process. The venue is much less expensive, and other vendors were willing to give us a better deal because it’s on a Sun. during the day. We also got all of our first-choice vendors since it is a less popular time. Your out-of-town guests could arrive Sat. afternoon, then relax at night and be ready to celebrate the next day. If your wedding is over early enough, that may allow people to travel home right after so they don’t have to miss work the next day. Another pro is that with a Sunday daytime wedding, I get to wake up, and things get going right away — no time to stress and be anxious all day as the wedding time slowly approaches.
As far as cons go, I think some people who do need to take Monday off aren’t too thrilled about it. For me, a con would be that I have to get up super early for hair/makeup/photos, etc. Another con is that I don’t really get to be chill in the morning and hang out with friends and family before it’s “go” time.
I hope this helps. For me, I think it’s the right choice. Let us know what you pick!
Post # 4
@bluestuff one of the pros was something I was thinking about! lol I know I won’t be able to sleep and I’ll be anxious and ready to go! So that is always a plus.
Post # 5
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with Sunday afternoon weddings but I think it all depends on your crowd. I went to a sunday wedding once and half the guests ended up leaving about an hour and a half before the reception officially ended because they either lived far away and had to drive home for work the next day or they just wanted to get home to relax for a few hours before work the next day. I also feel that not a lot of people end up drinking much (which could be a pro haha) because they don’t want to get as crazy on a sunday wedding when they have to go home wind down before work. I think it just depends on your crowd though, if you have an older crowd it’s perfect because they’re looking for something more laid back anyway….
I think if you love the place though and have your heart set on it then you should just do it…
Post # 6
@kate169 Glad I could help 🙂
Post # 7
Pros: Can be cheaper as you an do champagne only or limited alcohol choices; brunch style foods which can be cheaper; you still have the evening/night to have an afterparty with your close friends or select guests; out of own guests may not have to take off work as many days.
I don’t really see any cons. 😛
Post # 8
I think the major pro is cost. And for people on a really tight budget, I think a daytime wedding is the best choice, because you can do something really different and lovely that will stand on its own without being compared to more expensive evening weddings.
I think the con on a Sunday is that you will have fewer people attend, and people will leave early. It also won’t be that traditional feel.
If you want to have a traditional evening wedding, but are thinking about planning it for the afternoon and justing squeezing the whole nine yards (seated meal, toasts, dancing, etc.) into the day, I would recommend against it. Find a cheaper place. Find an unconventional location and rent those chivari chairs. For example, just being able to bring your own wine and booze alone can save thousands.
If, on the other hand, you are willing to embrace the daytime and make it your own, be a little unconventional, do it. Daytime weddings can be gorgeous. I just really recommend against acting like it is an evening wedding. Be different. You’ve got time. Change your colors. Embrace it.
Post # 9
It sounds lovely! If Saturday is absolutely out of reach (which it sounds like it is), you could see if some of the money you save on a Sunday wedding could be used for speciality lighting to create a nighttime mood if that’s what you want. It’s amazing what can be done with lighting these days!
Other consideration: you could have an informal “after party” somewhere different for the folks who want to hang on and enjoy the day a little longer!
Post # 10
I agree with @monitajb – if you’re having a Sunday afternoon wedding, I wouldn’t try to make it like a typical evening wedding. It’ll most likely have a completely different atmosphere. People would probably be less likely to dance & drink & carry on. So, I wouldn’t recommend trying to make it so. I think it could work if you embraced the Sunday afternoon feel & go with it.
Maybe serve brunch style food & drink (mimosas, bloody mary’s, screwdrivers) and maybe just beer or wine. Instead of a full blown DJ, you could do a more mellow jazz band or something of that sort.
I think the people who love you guys will all enjoy being there.
Post # 11
I am having a Sunday daytime wedding. One of the reasons we decided to do this was because our venue has huge windows overlooking a small pristine river valley with lots of trees. The view is really impressive and if we had a night wedding, we would have missed out on that. I also like how cheerful a sunny day is and I felt that a daytime wedding was just more ‘us’ because of that.
Although you have to wake up alot earlier to get ready, you will have more time that evening to just spend one-on-one with your husband. I like the idea of having the time to spend with guests during the day and have a nice dinner with just Mr. Stormy that night since I won’t get much alone time with him during the day.
Post # 12
@Stormy that sounds awesome. The venue I’m looking at has big windows overlooking both the a big river out of one side and the other side you can see the Chesapeake bay. I never thought about a day time wedding being better for the views but you make a good point.
@monitajb and @ladygoodman What kind of things do people normally do at afternoon receptions? I’m guessing it’s just a more laid back vibe? Eating, obviously. lol But dancing? Bouquet toss? Or just eating and chilling out?
Post # 13
Normally a daytime wedding has more of a cocktail feel. I would provide more area to mingle.
Dancing isn’t out of the question, but probably slower music, maybe a string quartet if you can swing it. Not club music, at least.
Post # 14
We’re still doing all sorts of traditional “wedding” things, even though ours is during the day. We’re having a DJ and dancing, on their RSVP cards, we asked guests if there are songs they’d like to dance to. There will be alcohol and plenty of it! I assume that people won’t drink as much as if they were at a Sat. night wedding, but I want to make it available. I’m not doing a bouquet toss simply b/c it’s not very “me,” but I don’t think the time of day should stop you from having all of the wedding elements you want to have.
Post # 15
I’m also having a Sunday lunch banquet. As others have said, the biggest pro for a day reception is cost. Not only will your venue have lower or no minimums, but you can go easy on the alcohol (although if you want dancing, I suppose you’ll still want to provide plenty). =)
FI and I were going to have a Sunday wedding no matter what, and we went with the lunch reception because it worked better with the flow of our day since ceremony, banquet and wedding party photo shoot are all at different locations. Having attended a lunch wedding reception before, I also like the feeling that there is still time to unwind and let the food (all those Chinese banquet courses!) digest before going to bed and work the next day.
The cons? i only have one: my wedding day wake-up time. Although I haven’t booked the MUA, yet, friends have said I’ll probably have to wake up at 5 a.m. Ugh.
bluestuff’s suggestion for your OOT guests is spot on; that’s what I did for one friend’s wedding: flew in Saturday morning, caught up with friends, attended the wedding and afternoon reception on Sunday, and flew back that evening. Our OOT guests should also be able to catch flights back home after, or even at the tail end, our reception.
Post # 16
On the plus side, you’ll definitely save money by not needing to book a band or even a DJ. A simple ipod/speakers should be plenty for a Sunday afternoon affair, since the dancing will be minimal as discussed previously above. I think your hair & make-up will be less expensive, too. Lots of areas to save money!!