Daycare moms – will you tip at the end of the year?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My sister has been a daycare provider (in other centers, and now owns her own) for many years. I have never heard of her getting a tip, gifts yes, but not money. Although that doesn’t mean she just didn’t mention it, I guess she probably wouldn’t tell me if she did, but usually she gets small gifts around the holidays or when a child moves on to pre-school/kindergarten.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

I think a gift would be a better idea. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am pretty sure no reputable center would allow any of their employees to take cash. Gifts or gift card? Sure, but not cash. I gift his teachers at the beginning of the year, Thanksgiving, Christmas and the end of the year. I’ve done gift cards, personalized tumblers, wine, homemade goodies, bath and body works ( because I knew what scent they liked) etc. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have worked in daycare and now have a child in daycare. I NEVER received money.  I did get gifts yes.  We give our provider gifts. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@kelly105:  It’s not ethical to accept cash gifts so you’d be putting them in a weird spot. It can be seen as a bribe which is obviously not your intention, but yeah. Now if it was an in home daycare that might be one thing, but a center I would not do that. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@mixtapehearts:  My little boy is in in home daycare would be to weird to give her money for gift/tip. We still do the gifts. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@kelly105:  I think gifts would be a better idea. Alot of companies do not allow there workers to accept monetary gifts

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My MIL runs a daycare from her home.  Some of her parents give her money, some give gifts.  It’s never expected and she is so grateful and surprised every year when she receives anything.  It doesn’t make her favor children one way or another, but it does make her feel like she is making a positive difference in the children’s lives

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@kelly105:  $100 is WAY too much even if it was as a gift card. Maybe where you are, larger amounts of money are norm. I wouldn’t have been allowed to when I worked at a day care (or want to) and as an elementary school teacher still wouldn’t accept it. An amount like that feels like you’re trying to “buy” someone or sway them into your beliefs, even if that is not your intent. Cash is impersonal, where the “bribe” feel comes from, on top of the amount of the money.

Instead, I’d find where they usually shop/favorite store, etc and get them a gift card there, and then spend no more $50. 

But, a gift/tip is not (or should not be) expected  ata day care or even once your child is in school. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Well apparently I’m in the minority, but I don’t see anything wrong with giving them a cash gift – but I would make sure it is okay with the director beforehand so check with her privately. The only reason for it not to be okay is if it is against company policy, but I was a preschool teacher (now work in Elementary school) and our center did not have such a policy. Our center was one of 5 schools owned by the same guy and all based locally, so it was a fairly small private business. If your child goes to Kids R Kids or some other center that is corporate owned then I can see them being more strict on this kind of thing, in which case a gift card (for however much YOU deem appropriate) is fitting. Maybe ask each teacher what their favorite store is so you know they will get good use out of it. 

I definitely don’t see cash a bribe in this case – it is a token of your appreciation and $100 is quite small in proportion to how grateful a mother is that her baby is well taken care of (NOT saying that your gift is small at all, I’m just saying your knowing that your child is well taken care of is obviously worth a lot more to you). Good preschool teachers have very demanding jobs and they typically don’t receive benefits or much time off: my center was closed only on Christmas day. Open Christmas Eve and the 26th, so while everyone was spending time with their family I was working. 

That being said, when I received any gift from a parent I was very thankful: baked goods, a card, a gift card, $20 cash, one parent bought me socks every year, etc. I don’t expect gifts, but I always helped their child prepare a Christmas and mother’s/father’s day gift for them so it was nice to get something that showed they were thinking of me and thankful for my hard work. So don’t be afraid to give less or think that your chid’s teachers expect or need a larger gift. I guarantee they will appreciate any gesture. And, IMO, it would be way more inappropriate to cash gift an Elementary school teacher than a preschool teacher. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Definately ask the director. $100 is a huge amount to me. When I worked in childcare, I always appreciated a box of chocolates or a Starbucks card – that was as big as it got. (Mind you, I worked in a low income neighbourhood.)

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’ve never heard of this practice. Daycare is expensive enough as it is. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsPanda99:  yes it is, but daycare teachers don’t make a large sum of money so a personal gift is thoughtful.

Although I agree $100 cash is  a lot, but again daycare teachers usually dont get a large holiday bonus so it would be helpful for them and their family around the holiday time. 

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