Daycare or 1 on 1 nanny?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Daycare or one on one nanny?
    Daycare- so they can mingle with other people : (23 votes)
    35 %
    Nanny!! Def want all the attention on my baby! : (33 votes)
    51 %
    Half and half! Daycare few days a week, and nanny other days : (9 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    1478 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Absolutely 1 on 1. I grew up with a nanny for my brother and I. It was nice that we could be home all day, or go to school and come home afterwards and didn’t have to be “out” for 10 hours per day. My parents thought it was important for us to be in our home. I will be doing the same for my (future) children.

    Post # 4
    2964 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Daycare centers are giant breeding grounds for antibiotic-resistant bacteria. A HUGE advantage of one on one care is less illness for the child. Children have plenty of time of interaction later on.


    Post # 5
    1748 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    For a baby, one on one for sure.  Once the child is around 1, I think I would prefer a nanny 3 days a week and day care for 2 (or 3 half days, or something like that), because I do like the idea of interaction with others and a curriculum based approach.  This is of course with the assumption that there was no way I could stay home with my child myself.

    Post # 6
    4525 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    Maybe I’m biased because I used to work at a daycare, but I would rather send my kids to a daycare. One-on-one interaction is great, but they’ll get just as much love plus more social interaction in a high quality daycare.

    Post # 7
    1748 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Add an option for some combination of both maybe?  (then I can vote too lol!)

    Post # 8
    1564 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If it was cheaper, I’d probably do a nanny but I would be nervous about the lack of social interaction for my child. I’ve seen some children have issues with this and I want my kid to be comfortable in social situations.

    Post # 9
    4416 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If the cost were the same, I’d take the nanny over daycare. But since the cost is not even in the same ballpark, DD goes to daycare. I don’t mind sending her there, since I do think there’s benefit in her being around other kids and learning that she won’t always get what she wants .01 seconds after deciding she wants it, but I’d still take a nanny if I could!

    ETA — I assume a nanny would still take my kid out to library story times etc so she would interact with other kids; just not full time.

    Post # 10
    1857 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    For an infant, 1-on-1 definitely, if I could afford it.

    Out of curiosity, though, does the family know you’re expecting a baby in July? If I wanted consistency in the care of my child, that might be something that would give me pause (assuming that you would be taking some time off to care for your own child, and that childcare arrangements may be altered after you have your own child).

    Post # 11
    544 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    As a former part-time nanny, I would choose a really awesome daycare. Daycares are regulated, reviewed, rated, and providers are licensed by the state. Nannies are not! I worked for some super wealthy families and therefore, met other full-time nannies who worked for wealthy families (think surgeons, CEOs, athletes) and I was usually NOT impressed. I saw these nannies when the parents were not around and they were not giving 100% of their attention to the children in their care. And that’s really just the start. In my state, daycares are reviewed every six months, ratings are updated and violations of all kinds are publicly available online. 

    Post # 12
    3465 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I work at a daycare in as a teacher in the infant room and our kids (my personal experience) gain a lot from interacting with other kids.

    There is nothing wrong with nanny’s just the interactions are much different. The clients we have though are very school oriented, the parents are either either univeristy students (we are university based), are university faculty, or community members.

    I myself would stay home with my child until it was a few months old and then send it to a reputable daycare center. Kids get sick, and a nanny doesn’t always protect them from that. Where I work, we keep our classroom very clean and we have strict rules on illnesses that not all daycares have.

    Post # 13
    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @graygodess20:  …nanny all the way.  But all nannies are not created equal, and there are some real stinkers out there, who talk a good game, and when you think they’re interacting with your kid and playing with them, they’re beached on your couch devouring their third bag of Bugles while your kid rifles through the cleaning products under the sink.




    Post # 14
    1346 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    I’d prefer for my child to have the opportunity to meet people outside of the home, so daycare. My ultimate dream is to have children go to someone else’s house with a few other children — maybe a SAHM’s house — who speak Japanese so that they can get more practice than they’ll get with me alone.

    Post # 15
    2789 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think the quality of care at a daycare and a nanny can be equal–it just depends on the daycare and the nanny. 

    Like most people, we’re constrained by our finances and daycare was the only option, but to be brutally honest, the major advantage of having a nanny for me (with a toddler) really doesn’t have to do with my child and the quality of care so much that it would take pressure of me and my husband and our own work schedules because we wouldn’t have to take vacation days for sickness, dr’s appointments and all the other things that pop up with kids. 

    I’m sure the whole daycare vs. nanny vs. SAHP is a very emotional debate, but at the end of the day, I’m ALSO sure we all know adults who grew up in many different circumstances with all different kinds of childcare and we all turned out okay. 


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