Daylight Savings Time is ruining my wedding! {Candlelight ceremony logistics}

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Let's make it work.
    Keep 3/14, keep 7:30, and have a full reception. The night owls will love you. : (3 votes)
    30 %
    Keep 3/14, keep 7:30, and go for a drinks/apps/desserts. A shorter reception is not a bad reception. : (1 votes)
    10 %
    Keep 3/14, but change the time. You'll survive with some daylight. : (2 votes)
    20 %
    Go back to 3/1. This way you get the candlelight and the full reception. : (4 votes)
    40 %
    Give up and elope. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    2449 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    You’re getting married pretty much at magic hour. Your photos are going to be gorgeous, I would keep the same date.

    Post # 4
    2962 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would keep the same date but different type of meal. If you start the wedding at 7:30pm, how long will the ceremony be? How long will cocktail hour be? You may be starting dinner at 9pm! Champagne and desserts sounds like a wonderful wedding I would attend and it’s cheaper! But also keep in mind these weddings are typically shorter than the ones that include dinner.

    Post # 5
    11626 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think dinner at 9pm is way, way too late.  If you’re going to keep the candlelight ceremony, I would just do an apps/dessert kind of reception, but make sure your guests know that no meal will be served so they don’t come hungry!

    Post # 6
    2884 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    i did a sunset wedding. logistically, it means if you want daylight photos (bride and groom, family etc, not just the 30 min ceremony) then you’re better off doing a first look for photos

    i think a 9pm dinner is fine but thats pretty standard for weddings here (mexico). ar eyou having a lot children coming? they might have problems waiting for food. otherwis,e you just give people a heads up and tell them that they should have a late lunch

    are you having a reception after, with dancing? if not, then a champagne/hors d’oeuvres reception is fine. if people will be staying late, it  needs to be a meal

    edit  – ive just seen march 14th is a friday. most likely, people will quickly change after work and not have time to eat dinner beforehand. so i think not serving a meal will be more problematic

    Post # 7
    2884 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    id probably keep march 1st to be honest, and then have a normal dinner without it being horrendously late

    Post # 9
    174 posts
    Blushing bee

    I would definitely change the date back to your first option. Is the significance of 3/14 literally the only reason you moved to the 2nd date?

    If it is, I’d probably prioritize wanting a candlelight ceremony my entire life over that.

    (And I agree with PP, 9pm is way too late to serve dinner.)


    Post # 10
    12 posts
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m having a 7pm ceremony and a 9pm dinner. The choice is really a 3pm ceremony or a 7 and I wanted evening so there you go. My guests will easily figure out from the ceremony start time that dinner is late and prepare accordingly.

    To make up for it though I did choose a buffet dinner to serve a little more quickly than plated and my cocktail half hour will have a carving station for those who don’t realize a catholic ceremony takes the better part of an hour.

    My sister did her 7 pm wedding and followed it with heavy horderves  (sp?) instead of a true dinner. There were still tables and table numbers but set only with napkins and water glasses (as mine will be with the buffet). People stayed until the music stopped and the bar closed. I can go into much greater detail on either late night reception if you’d like.

    Post # 12
    22125 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’ve been to 6:00 or 7:00 PM weddings before, meaning dinner wasn’t till 8:30 or 9:00. Didn’t really phase me, as I knew going in that if the ceremony started later, dinner would be later too.

    Post # 13
    12 posts
    • Wedding: February 2014

    So my plan, first look and all pictures not at the altar done beforehand. Then the ceremony and while the guests get to the reception I finish the altar photos.

    When guests arrive the bar will be open with a carving station. That handles starving guests. They have time to find there placecards and tables and there will be itinerary showing dinner is at 9. We should arrive before then to introduce wedding party and then straight to me and then hubby doing our first dance. This will have the dance floor be open for anyone once they’ve eaten! Any other dances we can do before 9 will take place.

    My wedding party is informed to start dancing as soon as they’ve eaten so all the guests know it’s expected and no need to sit around if you were the first through the line. We will be walking to all the tables this time trying to say hi. Some point we will cut the cake to serve dessert.

    At 10 the buffet is closed and the toasts will happen and the music turned up. We go until midnight.

    Official timeline isn’t made up yet but that’s the general flow. The only time I’ve ever hated late dinners was a plated one because I was one of the last tables to serve and the live band didn’t play until everyone had eaten. So that’s why I chose buffet and DJ. I just want to party. 🙂

    PP is correct. If the ceremony is listed near dinnertime people know food is served later and will come having eaten something! When you list your reception information just note whether it’s dinner or appetizers and most guests will eat what they need beforehand to survive the night.

    Post # 14
    1231 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

    My ceremony did not start until close to 8 pm with of course a late dinner and not a single person complained. Our guests were clever enough to figure out the dinner would be late and plan accordingly 🙂 

    Post # 15
    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Question: Is your ceremony inside? (I suppose it would be, I’m in March, too!)

    I am also planning somewhat of a candlelight ceremony, and am getting married in front of a fireplace (with candles all around)… I’m going to ask my ceremony venue to turn down the house lights. Not turn them off, just down enough that the candles glow, instead of just seem to be lit. Make sense? 

    And don’t forget… in the winter it often gets darker out before sunset!
    So you really may be OK.

    Coming from an architectural standpoint, I can try to pinpoint the angle and position of the sun related to your church & ceremony time if that would make you feel better. Meaning we could possibly see if it’ll be streaming through the stained glass windows. PM me if you like, and I’ll give it a shot.

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