Post # 1
Earlier last week I was diagnosed with hypertension and my doctor was extremely concerned considering I was living a healthy/active lifestyle that should prevent this from occuring.
He told me that in addition to continuing my healthy lifestyle and starting medication that I need to de stress immediately. I explained to him that my wedding is less than a month away so I didn’t think it would be easy to just stop getting stressed with everything I had to do. He informed me that with my chest pains I could have a heart attack if I do not do everything possible to get rid of my stress since the medication only helps the symptoms.
With everything going on with the wedding – and life in general – I have no idea how I can just take all the stress away. I still need to deal with the caterer, photographer, and officiant in finalizing details plus I am on a last minute rush to find more decorations with the money left in my budget. I have drama going on with the best man and my mother is making decisions that go against my plan – like purchasing boutonnieres with cream lily wrapped in burlap when she knew I was going to make my own with light blue roses wrapped with blue textured ribbon with the supplies already ordered.
The only thing I can think of is taking time off of work (as I work with an extremely stressful supervisor breathing down my neck) but I can’t take more than the few days I already have off for the wedding as it is our year end this month and I have a lot on my plate. In the past I have discovered that I am not a yoga person and the only thing that seems to work is hot baths – but I can’t take them because my cat thinks I need rescued from the tub plus the hot water isn’t good for my blood pressure.
I don’t know if any bees have any suggestions on how I can reduce my stress in ways that have worked for them. Google of course has a million and one ways to releive stress and I’d rather not spend my time researching instead of trying to relax.
Post # 2
Massage? Reflexology? Facial?
Post # 3
jesssr: The problem with those is that because of the wedding I do not have the cash to spend on these kinds of treatments, those would only be possible after the wedding. I’ve even tried to allow FI to give me a massage but that ends up making me more tense than when he started!
Post # 4
Exercise works wonders on just about everything! Even a walk around the block can be effective. As I continue my wedding planning, I will continue running and biking as I usually do. It feels great!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Daily meditation practice? Helps me a lot. There are apps that teach you how.
Post # 6
craigslistgirl: I am a regular runner (kind of on a break because I can’t run until my medication kicks in and no chest pains) but I find running doesn’t releive stress as much as I would like, it seems more like a temporary thing of not having something to stress about while running but as soon as I get back home I get that bogged down feeling from all I need to deal with.
rachel85: I never really tried meditation, I’ll need to see if maybe doing that before bed would help.
Post # 7
WeddingBells2014: Where I live we have a few wellness spas that offer private rooms with a jacuzzi and a sauna/steam room for an hour! I love doing this about once or twice a month. It’s relatively cheap (around $40 for the hour) and I try to go before bed because I always sleep amazing after! Not to mention it’s good for your skin!! SO loves going with me too although it is nice alone. Our place offers outdoor jacuzzis with the indoor shower and sauna so that we can sit the stars in the jacuzzi.
Take a deep breath and big hugs!! You’ll get through this!
Post # 8
WeddingBells2014: Delegate your to-do list. Become the manager instead of the grunt person, even if its things like hiring a florist, hiring a cleaning person for your home once every couple of weeks, could you hire a planner to help with your last minute meetings and your day of co-ordination? And let the little details go a bit, if it isn’t exactly your vision, its ok, it could be even better. And your health isn’t worth it, in the end.
Massage, exercsie you enjoy, meditation, swim, yoga (ok you said you didn’t like it), giving yourself 30 minutes a day to sit and do something you love (craft – not wedding related! or listen to music, dance, whatever. Something not work related and not wedding related, something that makes you feel GREAT once you’re done.) Check out progressive relaxation.
Deep breaths when you start to feel up to HERE! Learn to recognize your stress cues, ask people close to you to look out for them as well. Take a few minutes when you feel yourself getting stressed to use one of your destress mechanisms.
I work a very stressful job. So much so that we are followed by psychologists with routine evaluations. I like high stress. I seek it out in my down time (extreme sports). At my last meeting she made a recommendation to find a low stress passtime. I ended up taking up crochet (which sounds insane, even as I type it.) But I do 30 minutes before bed, its repetitive, my brain shuts off, I listen to music sometimes while doing it, sometimes its just quiet. And I get a weird sense of accomplishment as the project takes shape. And in the end, it doesn’t matter. I tend to be a perfectionist, I have learned to let go a bit. But I’m still working on it. Being a perfectionist is a great trait – until it affects your health and the world around you.
Post # 9
What do you do? It sounds exciting!
Are you on beta-blockers, WeddingBells?