Post # 1
Alright ladies I’ve been de-virginized from wedding dress shopping. As far as firsts go, it was informative but not that enjoyable. I defintiely know my style is in Casablanca, and that I prefrer lots of beading with spakles, a dropped waist A-line skirt. BUT I wasn’t blown away by anything. I felt super self conscious about how I looked. I felt fat in just about every one. In all of the strapless dresses I felt like I had man shoulders. I didn’t feel beautiful I definitely didn’t feel bridal at all. My mom and gma were taking pictures and I didn’t feel like smiling in any of them, I just didn’t feel it. I mean I wasn’t expecting to be all sappy and cry and yell “YES THIS IS MY DRESS” but I wanted to feel something. I just felt indifferent to everything. My mom, gma and Fiance say it’s jut because I haven’t found THE one and that the samples dresses being too small might have something to do with it. Have any of you felt this way???
Post # 3
Sorry to hear you’re disappointed!!! If it’s any consolation, I was incredibly disappointed during my first dress shop….while some of it may have been the dress selection, a lot of it had to do with the shop itself/staff. I felt like I was just shopping at a TJ Max! But the next place I went to had many of the same dresses, but the scene and the people made it an awesome experience. Keep booking appointments, bring a girlfriend with you…and go with no expectations other than to have fun bonding with mom/gma/girlfriends!
Post # 4
with only one shop!?!? are you crazy? i tried on like 100 dresses. but i did find “the dress”
don’t worry, you’re just starting and you already have some key decisions made. enjoy the process. 🙂
Post # 5
I must have gone dress shopping like 10 times before I found THE ONE… most of the time, I knew the type of dress I was looking for just not the EXACT dress…. the sales people kept bringing me stuff I knew I didnt like…and then were pissed I didnt want to try it on.. I would pretend like I was having a good time for my moms sake… but most of the time I was just extremely annoyed and felt like the sales person never listed to me… I actually ended up finding the dress I wanted shopping online… went to try it on… score… done and done… no dealing with stupid sales people showing you things you dont like for hours and hours… try sifting though a website that carries several designers or the knot… you can narrow it down better…
Post # 6
If you can..try on some dresses by Rosa Clara. If I could afford it..I would buy me an Aire dress..ahh if only. Also called the Aire Barcelona line:). Like I said, if only!! haha!
Post # 7
I felt your exact same disappointment. All the people who came dress shopping with me were more excited than I was. It was a huge letdown.
However, I went to oodles of shops after that and tried on more dresses than I care to count. Sometimes I took people with me, and sometimes I went alone. I felt super frustrated that I wasn’t finding “The Dress” that everyone talks about. I thought something must be wrong with me! Alas, I finally….FINALLY found my dress. It’ll happen for you too! Don’t worry, just keep trying!
Post # 8
Thanks guys, I feel better that I’m not alone in feeling this way! I have another appoitment today, so we’ll see if it feels better. I’ll just try to have fun with it.
Post # 9
You just have to be bold and get the one that you want. Even if you don’t think its a style that everyone would not like you in. I would keep looking until you just get some clarity. On the other hand you can look so much that you never find what you want. I just picked my dress and I never got to try it on. But I love it.
Post # 10
LMAO, love the title of this thread! Let’s just say I was glad to see it under the “Dress” section instead of the “Honeymoon” section!!!!
Post # 11
I totally felt that way the first time out at dress shopping. The consultant kept bringing me ugly dresses, was MIA for most of the appointment and I was super wow’d by any of the dresses (I did find one that I really liked, but knew it wasn’t the one).
My second time out was at a local bridal boutique and was totally different than my first experience. That is the place were I ended up getting my dress.
Post # 12
I totally feel you. I was beyond disappointed after my first 2-3 wedding dress shops. I felt fat (stupid dress sizing) and pathetic and discouraged that I’d never find the dress that made my jaw drop. I felt like a weirdo playing dress up as well!
In the beginning, you’re trying on EVERYTHING, but eventually, you’ll start to get a better idea of what you’re looking for so the next shops you can pull better options to try on and each one will be a little closer to the right one. Then, it’ll just happen. Promise!
Post # 13
I got my Dress today! This was the one I was holding out for and have picked from the beginning! I felt pretty, it would have been more perfect if it had been a sample size that fit…but oh well. I wore it for an hour…almost cried when we got the veil right… Felt beautiful in it, I know I’ll just LOVE it when it’s my dress and it all comes together. It’s a little stressful having to commit to one dress… but I def. don’t want to try on any more dresses. No pics of me in it… but here’s what it looks like! Can’t wait to see it in 6 months!!!!!
BUT I ADDED SLEEVES LIKE THESE:
What do you guys think??????
Post # 14
Very beautiful!!!! Congrats on finding the one… I never did lol! My accessories make me giddier than the dress, but that is true of my life. I say great shoes make the outfit not the other way around.
Post # 15
@sleepyrebel: it did feel a little like playing dress up…
I think my advice to newly engaged bees who have never tried any dresses on is be prepared to find bits that you like in dresses. At the first shop I wanted to combine 3 different dresses between bodice, sleeves, and skirt. The other thing is not to be expecting to feel that LOVE feeling because you make so many little choices that it’s going to completely change what your dress looks like. IMAGINATION is key.
@crebre80: I totally have hot pink shoes ready to go!
Post # 16
Yay! Congratulations!! My first shopping trip wasn’t that successful only found one dress out of about 18 that looked nice on me. It was my second trip that I also found the one. You’ve just got to wait 6 months now… I actually went back into the shop the other day to put the dress on again – I was having withdrawal symptoms he he!