Deadbeat Husband!

posted 1 year ago in Emotional
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Buzzing bee

If you don’t want this type of lifestyle with your husband you may have to leave him. 42 and not changing unless he doesn’t want to lose you. Good luck.

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Busy bee

My dad is 43 and engaged. He and his fiance have been having similar problems (not the unemployment, but getting high). I’ve told her since day one that he’s been the exact same way since he was 16, and HE IS NOT CHANGING FOR ANYBODY. She refuses to listen and is pushing through the engagement so she doesn’t have to start over.

Please, please, please be smarter than her and get out! Luckily you don’t have kids yet, it will still be difficult of course but is probably the best option for you to be happy. You deserve someone who wants to make the sacrifices needed to be an adult and in a healthy relationship.

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Busy bee

Please don’t have kids with a man who is a drug abuser. It won’t be a healthy relationship for them.

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Buzzing bee

@MRS-K:  Girl get your license, I didn’t get mine until I was 25 because I was afraid, I’m now 33 and can’t believe I didn’t drive until later in life. Good luck with whatever choice you make regarding your husband.

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Busy bee

@MRS-K:  They’ve been together for almost four years now, and she said she used to smoke with him every once in a while. But that’s all he ever wants to do on the weekends, he’ll even smoke in his truck on the way home from work (probably on the way to work too, who knows). 

He told her he would quit on his 40th birthday. He stopped smoking weed but started smoking cloves A LOT. Like as much if not more than weed. That lasted 6 months. Then he started getting high again, but hiding it from her and denying it when she asked him. He kept lying about it until he got so fed up with her “nagging” and said that he would quit when he was ready, not when she forced him to. 

Now, they’ve agreed he can smoke as much as he wants until the wedding (July 2013) but she still punishes him for doing it. 

Needless to say, they’re relationship isn’t a healthy one. I don’t even like being around them for long periods of time, and I feel sorry for my little brothers cause they get stuck with them when they’re going at each other.

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Busy bee

Wait we are talking about weed here? No one goes on a 2 week weed bender.

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Sugar bee

@mishagirls79:  

This. I waited to get my license until I was 24 and so regret it! That will be a major step towards independence for you :)

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