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So I've got six months to go till the wedding, and I am finally able to start focusing on the details. But other than paying for things, my isn't the most supportive person. She has an opinion about EVERYTHING and it's generally not positive. She told me providing transportation for guests on the day of the wedding was ridiculous and a waste of money because no one's ever done that for any wedding she's ever gone to. She didn't like my first choice of dress (which I'm still sort of regretting not buying anyway). She didn't like the shoes I picked out. She doesn't like my veil & hair accessory. She thinks I should make my bridesmaids buy their dresses from the same place. I've told her at least twice that this isn't her wedding and this my choice and while I appreciate her opinion I'm not intetested. And 9 times out of 10, it's "Well I don't like that," or "That's a bad idea" or "That's not smart," as opposed to "Maybe you should try this" or "Have you thought about that?". It's getting to a point where I don't want to tell her anything about the wedding at all anymore because she rarely has anything positive to say. She is paying for a good chunk of the wedding, and I feel that I've been fair in including and asking her opinion on the things that she's paying for that are pretty important: the venue, the food and my dress. But I'm stressed enough as it is, and I don't need her constant poo-pooing of my vision. Help! Please! Before I cut her out entirely :)

@eloping - that's exactly what i wish i could do right now: elope!! ahhhhhh!! thanks for the hugs!

@julies - it's not new, and it's reminding me of why i didnt get along with her at all while i was growing up. she's always been extremely judgemental and always has the best way of saying she doesn't like or agree with something. which in turn puts me on the defensive and then she gets mad at me for being on the defensive. so it goes. so at some point i decided to basically cut her out and have generally put her on a need-to-know basis with my life: if it's something major, life changing (new job, lost my job, diagnosed with some life threatening, etc), i'll tell her and otherwise i make small talk. which generally works except now when it comes to the wedding.... i'm just more sensitive to it given that this is supposed be a happy fun time for me and she's raining all over it. but in 6 months it will be back to normal again so i am thankful for that!

@waves2 - thanks so much! i just resolved that i am going to do whatever i want from now on. in fact, i've now decided to wear flip flops under my dress because 1) i hate "bridal" shoes, 2) i'm having a really hard time finding flat shoes i actually like (i have to wear flats b/c my dress doesn't have extra length and would be too short if i wore heels), and 3) because i just feel like it!

I'd just ask her "So Mom? What should I do/have/try instead?" My aunt is like this too and I find asking her what she would do in your place shuts her up pretty quick.

Only six more months at least!