Dealing with a bridesmaid. Help me word this.

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think she has given you the perfect out! I think you need to frame it though so she can’t decline your ‘offer’ to step down. Present it more as we have made this decision to be kind to you, rather than give her an option. Perhaps something along the lines of:


“I’m hearing that you are feeling really stressed and burdened with being in the wedding party. I hate to think that I or our wedding are causing anyone problems.  I know you are too kind to tell me yourself that you need to step down, so I wanted to tell you that you don’t have to do it anymore. We’d prefer that you come as a guest as we can’t bear the thought that we are causing people financial problems.”

Post # 4
1372 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

“I understand that weddings can be a financial burden and I hear that you are having difficulty with it right now. I would totally understand if you wanted to step down and just come to the wedding and party, then you don’t have to stress! Let me know what you want to do so I can sort everything out”

Simple, sweet and no blame. Weddings ARE expensive after all

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