- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I am eloping in 6 weeks – woohoo! Although I do have 1 problem with a good friend.
Bit of a long story so I will try and keep it short. My good friend met her husband 4 years ago where we all worked. They married October 2011 in a huge Greek ceremony, she is a very traditional so they never lived together and was a virgin when they married. She had a very idealisic view of the world and dreamed of a happy ending.
Fast forward to February 2013 and it was all over as she found out he was cheating on her with someone from the same workplace! (he got caught out sending 2 sets of flowers, one for the wife and one for the mistress so she got a private detective onto him) on V Day. She left work on stress leave and hasnt been back since whilst he is happily moved on with this other woman. My friend hasnt even attempted to move on, 7 months later she hasn’t worked, she spends her days with her retired parents and they havent come to a settlement as she wants an extra $50,000 for the hurt he caused her so it is going to court.
I love her but am at my wits end as she is bringing me down by saying “why you getting married, it wont last, all men are bastards” etc etc. My situtation is very different, been together for 5 years, living together for almost 5 years, both had our hearts broken before. She can’t/won’t even try to move on, she is still in the revenge mode and wants to slash his tyres etc
Any tips or advice?