(Closed) Dealing with baby fever but knowing you should wait

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The same way that you postpone hanging your shingle- wait until you are fully prepared.

Med school is hard enough without having to consider the needs of an infant.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Generally? Avoid and divert! Lol. Logic does a lot for me, too.

I basically try and ignore the positive aspects of motherhood, honestly. I divert my eyes when I walk past the cutesy baby section. I *painstakingly* avoid most of the baby/bump/parenting threads on here (though I’ll admit, I slip up) and I SLEEP A LOT because I love to sleep, haha.

Also? I get very literal about it. I have a list saved to my computer that is basically “What we would do if we got knocked up now.” And yes, while it’s nice that I can say we are married now, we still are not making the amount of money I want us to make nor do we have what I want in savings before we go that way. I balance a pretend budget and realize okay yeah….not ready for that yet. Oh! And we aren’t as old as I’d like us to be. We would just be 22 & 24 if we got pregnant soon.

 

 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

well a. we aren’t ready, so that kills it for me, but actually, reading some of the pregnancy/birthing stories on the Bee kill any desire for me to have kids right now. 

I’m not ready for cervical checks, assisted bowel movements, hoo-haa stitches, lochia, the ‘ring of fire’, cracked nipples, and no sleep. 

Nope, not ready!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

It’s not easy, but you got to think with your head and not your heart sometimes. 🙂  Especially when it comes to a HUGE decision like children.

I am WAY done having kids and I still have baby fever….LOL

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I went through the same thing and I’m much older than you! Lol I’ve been having baby fever since I was 25 (I’m 30 now) and it got much much worse when I was in nursing school in 2010. I think the reason it got so incredibly intense is b/c I knew I couldn’t have one at that time in my life. If I had gotten pregnant, I would have never been able to finish my degree due to financial issues and just the pure stress of school itself. Plus, FI and I weren’t even engaged at the time and I think knowing that also played a roll. Once I found out that he was on board with the whole baby thing, but would rather wait until after school, it kind of settled down.

You really just have to put things into perspective and decide what is important to you for the overall big picture. Having a baby right now at 21, even though you may be physically and emotionally ready for it, is probably not the best decision IMHO b/c of your dreams of med school. Med school is going to be stressful on your finances, emotional state, and overall sanity. Now add a baby into that and you’ve just increased all those stressors tenfold.

Just bc you don’t have a baby right away, does not mean that you will never have one and be able to fulfill that desire. But in the long run, only you know what is best for you…

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