(Closed) Dealing with Cultural Differences/ Biases

posted 7 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 5
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1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@manda21: I think the situation you describe with your MIL is common in a lot of cultures. I noticed that a lot of people look down on American culture for ‘kicking their kids out of the house when they’re 18.’

I always find culture really interesting, and I majored in Spanish in college…and minored in communications since I love studying how people of different cuktures communicate. I married into a Mexican family; MIL and FIL only speak Spanish. I can communicate with everyone well but sometimes I catch little things that make me think – like your situation. I remember one time my MIL thought I said I liked her Catholic mass better than my Christian service. She responded, ‘Oh yes, service is always better in Spanish, of course!!’ Even today, my FIL thought I was someone else (on the phone) and he called me (literally in English) a buttkiss…maybe because I am nice? But, it’s a stereotype that white people are ‘too nice’ or brown nosers.

I’m constantly learning more and more about Mexican culture, and sometimes people’s comments catch me off guard. I learned that if I tell my MIL something, EVERYONE will know about it lol. I learned that I will always blatantly be asked if I’m pregnant yet, if I’m on the pill, and my MIL will just keep asking me ‘Do you like beans? Because you ARE white.’ hahahaha.

I love my husband’s family soooo much, but sometimes I forget there is a cultural difference. The hardest part is getting my DH to understand where I’m coming from; that it’s hard to always be ‘the white girl’. But, I think we’re both better for it. I know how to make lots of Mexican food, and my husband is now a wine lover hahahah. Please forgive my stereotypes, but we have to laugh about it sometimes πŸ˜‰

Post # 7
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1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow, that will be exciting! You will definitely learn some Tagalog by going there πŸ™‚ Learning a language is fun, tell your husband to teach you haha. Sometimes it’s easier to speak in the language you both are comfortable in though. It kinda bugs me that my husband never speaks to me in Spanish πŸ™

Anthropology was a fun class too! I hope you have a lot of fun on your trip!!

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